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I am a bad, bad blogger. I started this blog almost over a year ago now when I moved to Perth and was very, very bored. Not to say I only write when I’m bored, but I needed an outlet, a soapbox, anywhere where I could reach out to other women who wanted to discuss gender, lgbt issues, books, movies, body image, etc. I hadn’t started university yet and I was barely working. I had so much to say and was so excited when my favourite writers started noticing me. People like Gala Darling, Girl With a Satchel, Rachel Hills and Scarlett Harris. I would tweet and comment and blog all the time. And then it became less about writing, and more about winning. Blogging became some kind of sport I had to excel at. I had to have X amount of readers within a month. I had to post X amount of times per week. It became less about writing and connecting, and more about achieving some goal, some egotistical digital trophy that revealed itself in figures on Google Analytics. I don’t even know what that goal is, because at what does a writer suddenly reach fulfillment? So I quickly learnt I was on a wild goose chase. Satisfaction, likes all forms of happiness, is so illusive and transient. And I wasn’t very happy. Posts became more about trying to impress rather than connecting through intelligent discourse. As a writer who willingly submits her work to the public sphere with a click of a button, I understand that my job as a writer is not to write for myself, but for my readers. They are, after all, the ones who have to read the thing. But I feel that with blogging, it’s different. Of course there’s a general desire to illicit some kind of response from readers, to engage and in likelihood ruffle a few feathers, but at the end of the day, it’s my blog. If I’m paying for a domain, I feel like I should gain something out of it too. And I’m not just talking about getting hits. I want writing to be a joy. Something I can wake up in the morning to and then high five myself because omg-this-is-just-so-awesome.

Aside from that, I’ve been catapulting through the universe up to my eyeballs in stress. My mother has bowel cancer, I’m working 2 jobs and completing the final year of my communications degree. I know, I know, everyone is busy. I have so much time says absolutely no one. I was burnt out. Roast to the core. So rather than complain, I decide to remove blogging from the equation for a bit because I just wasn’t enjoying it as much anymore. I used to love thinking of ideas for Girls Are Made From Pepsi and watching my words dance for me across the screen. So I’ve changed my game plan and gone back to basics. I’m not going to blog to achieve some goal anymore, but blog because it tickles me pink.

I doubt that I’ll be doing the Lady of the Month anymore, but will probably feature more sporadic interviews with interesting and inspiring women. You’ll probably also be seeing my face in posts more often too. So I guess here signals a new page for Girls Are Made From Pepsi. The winds of change be blowing.

xx

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Illustration by Marguerite Sauvage

Bonjeezy! How was everyone’s holidays? Mine were low-key and relaxing, and full of lots of delicious healthy food. Just the way I like them. Whichever way you like yours, I hope they were super-tastic and as enjoyable as mine was.

Am I the only one adjusting to the fact that it’s 2012? I don’t particularly feel any different, although I am quite glad no Mayan prophecies rang true. I try to not place emphasis on the new year. I feel that emphasis on a new calendar year, albeit one embedded in Christian tradition and imposed in the 16th century, is laden with empty tradition. All these expectations are cultivated that THIS YEAR WILL BE THE BESTEST EVER BY FAR NEW LEAF YADDA YADDA. Too often we put off changing our ways until later, till January 1st, because it just feels like we should start afresh when everyone else is, you know? New years are supposed to revelatory, inspiring, the perfect moment for popping out the cake to declare to the world “Happy New Queer!”

But generally, when I identify something in my life that needs to be eliminated, I try to take steps straight away to do so. Why wait for tradition? Lesley over at XOJane is much more articulate than I.

“It probably won’t come as a suprise that I’m not one for resolutions either, partly because I feel as if the cultural Resolution Machine we’re all faced with every year is too often tied up in ultimately destructive ideologies of self-improvement, and also because resolutions are a source of emotional pressure that usually don’t amount to much in the way of concrete accomplishment.”

However, I do have a few things in mind, “resolutions”, if you will, about 2012 or myself, and also for GAMFP.

* I’m going to pay more attention to my health. I’m going to walk the talk and take my own advice when it comes to eating healthily, and not focus on calories/fat/carbohydrate content because I am not a Tumblr-bot. I live in a city that really appreciates a holistic, natural approach to health. Incredibly hippy-dippy? Yes. But it’s also very cool and I feel very blessed knowing that when I walk down the street and enter any cafe, I’m more than likely to find at least 3 people who will come to my home and practice Reiki/Acupuncture/Remedial Massage on me.

* I’m going to meditate every morning. Without fail. I know that when I do, I feel so much better throughout the day. I personally really like listening to Meditation Oasis, and the Mediation Podcast. Both are free and are great if you’re having trouble quieting the chatter in your brain.

* I’m going to stop spending my money on material items, and focus more on experiences. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve felt less of a need for the best clothes, makeup, jewellery, hair products, whatever the television is telling me I need. Additionally, I’m also aiming to get rid of my debt completely by Dec 31st 2012.

* Need to take more holidays. I’m a self-confessed work-a-holic. Remember that break we were talking about? Yeah, I never had one. Mine’s coming 14th February, when I’m forcing myself to stop working. I don’t claim to be a martyr, but I do often find myself overloading my plate and crashing really, really hard. First stop? Bali! 14th February. Very Eat, Pray, Love and much needed.

* I’m going to stop inadvertently objectifying people. Whether it be the male or female form, I feel that as a person passionate about gender equality, that I often contradict myself. I natter on about the male gaze and street harassment etc etc, but I’m not really helping the cause by posting all these images of semi-naked women. Lord knows I appreciate the female form in all its glory. But from now on, images must be tasteful.

So that’s me. How about you? How did you sing in the new year and what super-sonic plans have you got up your sleeve, dreamer?

 

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Hello ladies!

This year has been a chunder-inducing roller coaster for me. Has 2011 been rough for you too? I honestly feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives over this past year. 2011 saw me:

  • Start my final year of university.
  • Move a grand total of 4 times (!!!). I never want to see boxes ever again!
  • Have a quarter-life crisis…at 22.
  • Find new love.
  • Lose new love.
  • Move interstate, and realise what I truly wanted to do with my life.
  • Start this blog. When I first moved to Perth from Sydney back in April, I was bored as all fuck. I’d just moved from King Street, the busiest street in Sydney’s Newtown (and above a rub and tug, no less!), to the most isolated city in the world. I was back with my parents, out of university, and working a few shifts in retail. A dear friend of mine posted a link to the work of the fabulous Gala Darling, and I was instantly smitten. I guess you could say that apart from sheer boredom and a lack of outlets to publish my work, she was the main inspiration for starting Girls Are Made From Pepsi. Except back then, it was then known as the Curious Cabinet and was hosted on Tumblr. GAMFP took on a completely new angle. It was less of an outlet for personal neurosis, and took on more of a feminist/LGBT slant. I’m proud of who I am, and I wanted to create content that other girls could relate to too.
  • Realise what I really want out of friendships. I want to be surrounded by people who are as equally motivated as me, have passions, and can influence me to be my best possible self.
  • Quit smoking! Yay! I feel SO MUCH better!
  • Kick start my freelance writing career. Who would have thought this would be possible in Perth?
  • Dye my hair pink.
  • Buy a pink bicycle.
  • Realise that no matter what curve balls life throws my way, I’m totally equipped to handle anything.

Wherever you are in the world, and whatever you’re celebrating this time of year, I truly hope you’re surrounding by people you love, food you can face plant and a room full of deliciously good feelings.

I’m taking Christmas off to be with loved ones, treat myself a little bit better and continue dreaming. Girls Are Made From Pepsi will be returning in the New Year. Thank you so much for reading my blog! I realise that your time is precious, and am super excited that you chose to take time to carouse the website.

See you in twenty-twelve!

x

What did 2011 mean for you? What do you hope to do next year?

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“Being single entitles you to not ask someone’s opinion before you do something to mess up your own room, your credit report or even your life.”
- Sayali Patil

“I’m single because I was born that way.”
-Mae West

“When you’re single, your pockets will jingle.”
- Anonymous

I have a confession to make. I’ve been single for almost 11 months.  Not only have I been single for 11 months, my romantic rendevous are unabashed solo acts. Contrary to the popular notion of how a young, fabulous and sexually fluid college student should behave (thank you, Aileen Chaiken!), you probably won’t find me in the toilets at Connections demonstrating ample finger dexterity. I’m highly unlikely to let my hands do the talking just because a tattooed dream in lady loving heaven has force fed me daquiries all night. Being single is a choice I’ve made, and I’m kind of reluctant to loosen my clutches on my claim to the life of a swinging bachelorette. Why?

I’m picky. I don’t have a list per se, but I’ve made a note of whom I wouldn’t want to waste a minute of my time directing to a tampon dispenser. Whereas most members of the lonely hearts club compile a grocery list of sorts of their ideal lover, I compile a DO NOT WANT list (mentally, I don’t physically sit around with my feather quill stuffed up my nose hoping to pick my brain for compatible characteristics that my future wife/husband should have). What does your list look like? Do you compile one at all?

I’m judgmental. I believe that a person’s taste says a lot about their personality. If you can’t respect my heaving library or share a similar admiration for the joys of FASHUN, I can no longer remain objective. They say opposites attract, and perhaps they do. I believe that when two totally different personality types collide in this universe, novelty usually overpowers foresight and common sense. Generally, the honeymoon period is spent observing the other species with a wild fascination and awe. Shortly after, the urge to convert follows, as partners try to fit their square pegs in round holes. Eventually, they realise that they’ll never be able to agree on a playlist for their car, or their taste in furniture is too dissimilar and they throw their hands up in the air and wish for the past two years of their life back whilst purging stray Sugar Ray albums from their iTunes. Do opposites really attract?

I get bored easily. If a person’s personality resembles a rubix cube of puzzles to solve and tricks to remember, most people will probably tire, stretch their fingers and do their best banshee impersonation. If you have to work to solve a jigsaw puzzle of a person, you better be getting paid, working girl. Hard to get? Or hard to tolerate?

Perhaps I’m being a little too close-minded when it comes to entering the shark pool, but time is like the purest of gold. I don’t like wasting it, and especially not with people I deem unworthy of my attention. It’s the last tub of your favourite ice cream out the back at Coles. You want to savour it, swirl it around your mouth before making your tummy sing a happy tune. Why waste your time? In my honest opinion, being single blows coupledom out of the water with a tsunami of benefits.

  • You always get to choose where you go on a date. Imagine a night free of quarreling, 100% enjoyment and synchronicity. I like taking myself on solo dates to the art gallery. I get to choose where I take me, myself and I, and there is no one else’s interests to consider. Simply 100% pure indulgement. It also makes the date a whole lot cheaper! Added bonus: no one thinks you’re a scrooge for bringing a lunch from home.
  • You can fart in bed and no one will care.
  • There won’t be anyone to criticise your garlic breathe. Eat the dang pizza woman!
  • Appearances are negligible. Presentation of the (best) self is 99% of the time based upon performances. In an ideal world, people would be able to see past your acne, your regrowth and jolly love handles. Unfortunately, personality is seen to be an inherent part of a person’s outward projection. Who would YOU rather associate with? A perfectly groomed fashionista? Or an unkempt and slightly overweight person? It’s called the Halo Effect, which basically means that people who are perceived to be attractive have a definite advantage over common folk when it comes to getting through life successfully. Fortunately, when I spend time alone, I have no one else to judge me. I know that sometimes I’m winning at life, and I don’t need to look a million dollars to convince the girl in the mirror.
  • Having a shit-tastic day? That’s okay! So is your other half (i.e: you!). Take some time to chill out with your misery. Hold it’s hand, let it know it’s okay to feel like your soul’s been chucked in a blender on pulse.

Do yourself a favour. Say nay to serial monogomy. Be your own number one fan.

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There is a small handful of movies and books I covet that stay secret in my cupboard, or jumbled up amongst other files somewhere inside my external hard drive. Not because I’m hiding an obsession for fetish porn, and not because I’m one of those elitists who run around stamping their feet every time their favourite bands gets their big break because ISAWTHEMFIRSTGAHCONFORMITYBLAHBLAH. I don’t really talk about my secret love of riot grrrl, or my predilection for reading Sylvia Plath before bed, or how I really, really related to Owen Wilson’s character in Midnight in Paris because I would seriously just die if Gertrude Stein offered to read my manuscript. I’m not wont to talk about how when I was 10, my idol was neighbourhood super-sleuth Harriet the Spy, the protagonist of Louise Fitzhugh’s children’s novel of the same name. Nor do I expect any nods of recognition when I mentioned that my favourite singer is Fiona Apple, or that in spite of her narcotic addiction and history for leaving the broken hearts of fallen men in her wake, I completely and utterly idolise Elizabeth Wurtzel’s autobiographical style of writing (no matter how self-indulgent it may be!). Talking about the people I admire is usually met with a blank fluttering of eyelashes, and within the past year or two of chinos/blunt fringes/granny clothes/over-sized spectacles becoming the the riguer du jour of self-confessed”non-comformist’s”,  I’m usually dodging the hipster label (I like mainstream too! I swear!) and waxing lyrical about authenticity and artifice in 2011.

I like a lot of artists/authors/thought leaders who could probably slot in quite easily within the categories of obscure, or alternative, or weird. I also love Katy Perry, Hannah Montana, Sex and the City and Top Model. I don’t shy away from these particular interests. Perhaps it’s because when you’re drawn to both the long tail, or counter-culture, and the short tail, (i.e.: mainstream), you’re more likely to find common ground amongst your peers when you throw as few long shots as possible, and pick a safe topic to talk about.

However, I don’t want to hoard an extensive list of underground artists in an attempt to appear different, unusual or culturally evolved. So as proof, here I offer a list of talented, interesting, amazing and sometimes fictional women/girls whom I hold close to my heart, and invite you revel in their precocious, disturbing and inspiring abilities as well.

Fiona Apple
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Born Fiona Apple McAffee Maggart, the 19-year-old received her first Grammy award at age 19 for her debut release Tidal, an album I saved up all my pocket money at age 12 to buy. A survivor of a rape in her preteen years, Apple’s opened up about her eating disorder and the attack in her music and interviews. As she sings “I was washed ashore/And he took my pearl”, Apple’s harrowing lament for the loss of her innocence cemented her melancholic music a favourite amongst my collections of CDs. Hardly known as an iron woman (she’s been known to openly burst into tears throughout interviews), Apple’s display of raw and unadultered emotion was something I could always relate to. Her music these days is a lot less sorrowful, but she still maintains the jazzy alternative rock sound she’s become famous for.

Harriet the Spy

I can’t remember my professional ambitions before I wanted to be a writer, so, fittingly, I can’t remember a lot of my aspirations before I read Harriet the Spy. A be-speckled eleven-year-old with writerly ambitions, Harriet is also a super-sleuth. She wants to be a writer, so she notes down any and all observations of those around her – no person or topic is sacred. Not only does she scrutinise the lives of those closest to her, every afternoon after school she takes a regular “spy route”, surveiling the neighbourhood town folk with a curious, anthropological eye. She even goes so far as to breaking and entering other peoples’ homes as she records their daily lives, hoping for inspiration and a story to tell. Not only is Harriet fearless, she’s feisty and super smart to boot. I imagine she’s probably grow up to be an upper class Veronica Mars.

Elizabeth Wurtzel

Shockingly candid and unapologetic,  Elizabeth Wurtzel is most (in)famous for her signature confessional-style prose. She’s well-known for writing the novel Prozac Nation, an account of a youth spent reveling in decadence, a cocktail of narcotics, self-loathing, SSRIs and extraneous craziness (the book was later made into a film, with Hollywood’s dark horse Christina Ricci in the starring role of Wurtzel in her college years, an adaptation Wurtzel herself has described as quite shit). Now somewhat of a reformed bad girl, Wurtzel is now an accredited American corporate attorney. She still writes occasionally, detailing the exploits of her past through eyes now older and somewhat wiser. But if you’re going to read one book of her’s, make it Bitch. It’s an extended ode to women behaving badly, and is enough to inspire the rabble-rouser in us all.

Evan Rachel Wood

Photo Credit: Albert L. Ortega

After some mild apprehension about featuring the face of Gucci, I decided to include ERW in this list because although she’s in a fragrance campaign for an international luxury brand, she is still very far from house-hold name status in Australia. Most famous for dating Marilyn Manson, and most recently playing the role of Sophie-Anne the lesbian vampire queen in True Blood, ERW first caught my eye as Jessie Sammler on Once Again. She is, as you would say, an “indie darling”, choosing roles in primarily independent films, portraying a myriad of troubled teens. Wood’s performances leave no doubt that not only is she enamoured with the characters she creates for the screen, she’s also fiercely intelligent, which makes me think she’d be an awesome karaoke partner, or the perfect person to be stuck in a Jet Star toilet with. Brownie points: she’s openly bisexual, and got to kiss Mischa Barton pre-OC.

Daisies

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A 1966 Czech film about two girls, Marie I and Marie II, Daisies is the ultimate rebellion film for girls who feel like making a ruckus. The film has no plot (what surrealist film makes sense though, honestly?), and is basically just a montage of the Maries playing pranks and causing chaos in a world that’s gone to shit, so like, why not?

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Style b­logging is a beautiful if somewhat chaotic medley of fashion, design, and the every-day-girl. As with a lot social media tools like Facebook and Twitter, anything and everything goes. It’s a candid mish-mash of individual perspectives, formed to create a sort of digital look book of all things stylish. Like moths fluttering towards bright lights bulbs, so too are the fashion-savvy towards the blogosphere. Blogs show case the lives and loves of normal girls, and if the success of tabloids and reality TV is anything to go by, we can’t get enough of the everyday Jane.

But therein lies the rub. What happens when the everyday girl is just as beautiful, just as thin, just as well dressed as the fashion models we see in magazines? Has the every-day become the glossy world of picture perfectionism? We crave diversity, but are we really rising to the challenge with the tools that let us do so?

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Let me illustrate. There is a girl I follow on Tumblr with thousands of fans. At just a mere 17-years of age, she has reached what is known as internet fame. Everyday she uploads or reblogs a beautiful mixture of images she finds from all corners of the web, creating a fashion-lover’s archive of inspiration for the self-confessed clothes horse. She is adored not just for her treasure trove of pictures, but also for own personal style. Self-portraits of thin, tanned legs reclining in a computer chair, a messy head of long blonde hair and a perfect pout receive hundreds of notes, likes a reblogs. She’s internet famous, and all she has to do is click her mouse.

“How did u get soooo skinny?!” One follower asks.

“can we plz get a rundown of what you eat each day?” Asks another.

The reaction to these images, whether they’re of the bloggers themselves or of catwalk models they admire, is uncannily similar to the way we react to the headlines that blazen the covers of magazines. We want to know what the other person does to look and feel good. What’s their secret? How can I be like them? How do I compare?

The girls of Tumblr are undoubtedly gorgeous, a community of style bloggers, amateur fashion designers and enthusiasts, writers and makeup artists alike. They love what they do, and best of all, they’re just like us. However, just like the perfectly choreographed images they post, web cam shots become DIY fashion shoots with real designer labels and some serious effort involved.

Fashion and beauty have always been about creating magical worlds, with control over these fantasies commanded from the top down. The Internet has given fashion and beauty lovers a place to openly share and create their own worlds, and take a little bit more control over what the media hands to us. The thing is, sometimes the pages of Tumblr aren’t that far away from the sartorial jungles of high-fashion magazines. The everyday fashion blogger and her Tumblr posts start to look more and more like the unattainable world we see inside the glossy covers of our favorite reads. Sometimes, it’s a little hard not to compare ourselves, especially when the girls responsible might even be people we know.

Social media tools like Tumblr are great for getting the creative juices flowing yes, but if something you’re viewing at is making you constantly look at yourself and how you compare, where’s the fun in that? And that’s what blogging should be all about – fun! Creativity! Expressing yourself and sharing your passion. Tumblr is just another form of media, and just as with magazines, television, movies and other images you see, it’s important to think about how blog content is created. Is it opening up your world to a variety of looks, styles and tastes? Or is it just reflecting the same old, same old?

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Last weekend marked the kick off of Perth’s annual Pride Month. I know Sydney gets a massive street party full of whirling lights and leather boots up to where, but Perth is slowly, but surely, making an attempt to be socially progressive on queer entertainment front. On Saturday I was inaugrated into the gay scene of Perth with the annual Fair Day, an event I’d been waiting for since I’d touched down back in April. For months I’d been left wondering what Perth people do for fun. Oh sleepy little city of sand and sun, where are  all the sapphic sisters? What does the queer community do in Perth? Is there even a gay community? Have they all migrated to Melbourne to wear scarves and drink wine in lane ways? With a population of around 3 million, of which 1.6 % is gay (Source: drunk guy at Russell Square), the turn out was about 1/16 of the queer events that I’m used to in Sydney. I was discussing with a friend the other day that Perth has the benefits of being a capital city, but it has this beach-side town chillax vibe. So naturally, Fair Day was a fairly tame gathering of queer, trans, bi-curious and gay friendly Perth types.

For those not in the know, if you want to get down with your bad self, Perth’s gay community has a choice of two bars. The Court is a fairly decent sized bar in the heart of Northbridge with multiple dance floors, and a fairly warm and happy vibe. Lots of complaints are being made about the Court’s “hetero invasion”, and I believe they’ve also stopped funding Pride Month. There’s also Connections, which is similar to Sydney’s Arq. Having never been to Connections, or “Connies” as it’s locally known, I can’t comment on it too much, but I’ve heard it gets off the heezy.

Fair Day was a fairly relaxed event, but I get that impression from everywhere in Perth. Unfortunately for me, much of this time was spent sitting down or limping around on crutches, detailing the repercussions of a non-existent dirt-bike accident. I’ve broken my foot, and it’s going to take about a month to heal. I did get to explore what they had there though – which wasn’t hard, as Russell Square is pre-tty teeny weeny. Slut walk had a booth, as did the Greens, the Cross Campus Queer Network, Manhunt, the Christian Queer Alliance, amongst many other organisations. I’m slightly skeptical about how the Slut Walks will be received in Perth. The city’s fairly conservative, and with the protest taking place so long after the rest of the world jumped on the band wagon, it’ll be interesting to see how much of an impact it has.


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I consider myself somewhat of a couch potato. I know that it’s Incredibly Distasteful to admit to one’s personal taste for a bit of light television viewing because my generation still possesses an affinity for counter culture and hipster aesthete, but I’m going to just put it out there. I’m a fan of the tube. There are few things that are as enjoyable and lusciously lazy as curling up on a bean bag with a mug of hot cocoa whilst watching mindless television. Given that I’m one of those stressed out university students who is more consumed by essay writing and the correct APA referencing guide and ways to effectively install pirated software, I unfortunately don’t have a lot of time for TV.

This is not an accurate portrayal of my life but I think you get the point - I spend a lot of time in front of the TV in my underwear.

Spencer and Ashley (South of Nowhere)

Although the show started in 2005, yours truly was a little late hopping on board the Spashley train (6 years to be exact). But don’t worry! I’m all aboard the Spashley ship and have the internet browsing history to prove it

South of Nowhere is commendable because it has the associations of mainstream television, being broadcast on American network the N. However, it never did make it to Australian free to air, but is available through iTunes and Amazon. The main plot revolves around the blossoming relationship between the openly bisexual Ashley and the questioning Spencer. Upon moving to California from Ohio with her family, a shy and otherwise hetero Spencer meets Ashley. Ashley is the antithesis of Spencer – she’s loud, she’s fiesty and has an attitude to boot. She also likes girls. After many a will they won’t they moment throughout season 1, Spencer and Ashley finally get together, and the rest of the show chronicles the ups and downs of their relationship.

A+: Explores a range of social discrimination, including race. Accurately addressed the conflict of heterosexual lust (otherwise known as the ‘am I really gay’ moment). Portrayed a realistic abusive lesbian relationship (Spencer and Carmen), demythologising the ‘easy lesbian relationship’ stereotype. One of the best and most emotional coming out stories ever.

Here is a cheezy Youtube video for your viewing pleasure.

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Apparently, if this video makes it to 100,000 viewers, they’re going to make a movie.

Jessie and Katie (Once and Again)

As a fan of Once and Again throughout high school, I think this show marks the genesis of my crush on Evan Rachel Wood. It also features a young Mischa Barton in her days before The OC and her questionable fashion choices. Evidently, I’m still a huge fan of both girls and consider this show to be the starting point. Once and Again focuses on the lives of two divorcees, Rick and Lily, and their families. Jessie, played by Evan Rachel Wood, is a young, shy and overachieving high schooler. She cries a lot. It is slightly annoying. In season three, she meets Katie (played by a young Mischa Barton). On the surface, Katie is the epitome of a teenage dream – the pretty, smart and popular high schooler you wish you could befriend. And Jessie does. But when Jessie finds out that Katie is gay, she finds their seemingly innocent close encounters a little too intimate for her liking. Katie makes Jessie question her comfort zones, and having just recovered from an eating disorder, Jessie craves normalcy. What eventuates is the development of a sweet relationship between two young girls who realise there’s something deeper and more meaningful going on amidst the playful hair flicking and sweater lending.

Best parts: Developed a teen lesbian relationship without overt sexualisation. The Jessie/Katie fandom also gained a huge following from young lgbt girls. And you know what young girls+tv equals. FANDOM. Here’s a bunch of fan fiction for your procrastination.

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Naomi and Emily (Skins)

Ah, Skins Generation 2. Naomi and Emily. I feel like a lot of girls can pin point a particular moment in popular culture where they began to start to feel the electric zaps of lady love begin to spark alight. And I think that for a lot of girls, Naomily might just represent a turning point in their sexuality. They hold hands through cat flaps. They get into fist fights with identical twin sisters in honour of their lady love. They go camping in the woods and swimming in rivers and deal drugs and Skins is all so very, very unrealistic, but didn’t your little heart just tear up a bit when Naomi left Emily by the river?

Score: Realistic depiction of promiscuity in same-sex couples. Oh yes, I went there.

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Excuse me!

I really feel the need to talk about this video. Before you click play, let me prime you for the amount of awesomeness that is about the hit you in the face. I don’t think you’re ready for this jelly.

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This is Evan Rachel Wood. She is dressed as Ellen de Genres. And she is singing her heart out to Justin Bieber.

Now, before we question my musical tastes let me just confirm that despite the Biebs highly intelligent and informed opinions on a range of matters, I am not a fan.

Source: Probably 4chan or sumfin

But THIS. This video is so major! I’m not even sure where to start expressing my adoration for ERW. My love sprung for Evan through the television screen, like most of my crushes did (Bowie, Jennifer Connelly etc) around about the time she debuted on Once and Again, wherein she was seduced by Mischa Barton (hai, gurl!). OTP for life. She then went on to star in a bunch of indie films (some which flopped, some which achieved cult status) which I probably bored all my friends with. I mean, did Across the Universe even have a plot? Who really cares when it features Evan Rachel Wood dancing in a bowling alley and belting out Beatles hits like a modern day soul sistah? Not me, not I. I came for the food. And by food, I mean eye candy. And damn gurrrll, ERW is giving me a tooth ache (I learnt all my pick up lines from Clueless).

So I apologise if I find her particularly delicious when she’s inadvertently impersonating Ellen and singing a cheesy pop song at a Karaoke bar.

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Hey you. Yeah, you. We haven’t spoken in a while. It’s partly my own fault. To be honest, I’ve been a little apprehensive about having this conversation with you. You see, there’s this thing you do, like, all the time, which has really been bugging me, nay, pissing me right off the Ferris wheel. I know that I should have piped up sooner instead of seething in my own contempt for your offenses. So here it is. Please, take a seat.

It’s about the language you use. Frankly, it’s quite inappropriate. It’s sexist and it offends a lot of people. I know you wanna appear hip with your lingo and all that because you want to sound dope like P-Diddy or whatever. But when you make believe that you have a penis and talk about all your bitches and hoes, it kind of makes me question our friendship.

For example, the other day you told me to quit being a vagina when I didn’t want to play chicken on the freeway. And it made me think ‘Huh. Why on earth would they say that? Vaginas are super strong human muscles that push out humans, and right now my fear of incoming traffic doesn’t seem to be on par with that level of awesomeness’.

I get what you meant though. You meant I was a scaredy-cat, that I was weak and feeble. Unfortunately, you’re not alone in this use of gender-specific language. If you were to say, “Gee, Camilla, you’ve got balls to stand up to me for implying that courage is inherently a masculine trait!” I’d understand that you were saying I had guts. Well, thank you. It’s true, it’s not easy to stand up for what you believe in when you’re in the minority. But I’d prefer it if you didn’t suggest I’d spontaneously grown a sack.

I know that it’s not entirely you’re fault, and you’re probably not even making a conscious decision to use these sexist terms. Plenty of people do the same without deliberately pushing a patriarchal agenda, not to mention the many other languages of which grammatical gender is a large part. Crazy! But is it really necessary to call someone a ‘boob’ when they’ve made a bit of an oopsy-daisy? Or call someone a c*** when they’ve got their best jerk face on?

I know that sometimes, you want to appear like one of the boys – sexually liberated, polyamarous and nonchalant and when it comes to relationships. But when you’re talking about the hoes on your dick or telling someone to suck it, you’re really just further aggravating these views of women, which I might point out, that you so detest that you’ve even tried in vain to disassociate yourself from any hint of femininity by talking like a dude (and a misogynistic one at that! Boo!)

Wanna be more awesome? Ditch the lingo! Add some spice to your syntax. Maybe say “That girl’s got chutzpah!” or “That really took a lot of swagger to wear those ass-lass chaps, buddy!”

Now, go to your room and think hard about what I’ve told you.

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So I’ve bagged myself a new job. I’ve landed myself a small marketing gig for a small business, the last thing I imagined myself doing upon relocating from Sydney. I mean this in a good way of course, as I really envisioned myself sitting at home googling Buffy gifs, building lounge room fortes and reblogging images of hot girls on Tumblr. Whilst I enjoy the previous three activities (and have the unwashed hair to prove it), I do also enjoy working with super awesome people, making media magic and building my credentials.

This job is a challenge for me. I have moments where I want to crawl up inside my doona cocoon and watch my box set of the L Word and eat cereal all day. This isn’t just because I have an intolerance for any temperature below 15 degrees, but because like any university student, the real world is intimidating. The words ‘salary’, ‘voluntary superannuation’ and ‘adult fare’ make me tremble in my bed socks. Having a job outside of the retail industry is a completely different game. In retail and hospitality, you show up, make some lattes/sell some overly priced designer goods and get paid an hourly rate for the time you are physically behind the counter performing whatever monotonous task you may have signed up to in order to have a substantial amount of booze money for the weekend. And that is it. You don’t negotiate a wage because you’re paid an hourly rate in accordance with the award you are employed under, you don’t negotiate sick leave, and you don’t perform outside of your position description.

So what does this have to do with being a bitch?

Basically, I’ve had to acquire some rabble-rousing skills, which can ocassionally ruffle feathers. Being disagreeable is not ideal, but more often than not, progression and harmony do not a synchronised swimming team make. I’m not sure where that metaphor came from, but it makes sense.

If you’re thinking I’m about to start talking about the glass ceiling, you would be right. However, I promise I’m not about to bring up maternity leave and Tony Abbott and breastfeeding in the workplace, which are all relevant topics, but I’m 23 and at this present moment in time my priorities are a little more grass roots feminism. I mean, FISHER AND PAYKEL MAKE THE BEST STROLLERS. Ahem.

Here’s a crash course in the gender wage gap:

  • As of last year (NATSEM 2010), the gap between men and women’s pay in Australia was at 17 per cent. That means women get paid 83 cents for every dollar that men earn.
  • According to statistics from Bureau of Labor Statistics from 2008 (the most recent data), women in the US were still only earning 80 per cent of what men were.
  • Most recently, the UK Office for National Statistics reported that the number of women seeking welfare payments has risen for the 12th month in a row. Read more at The Guardian.

Before I start flogging a dead horse into the afterlife (giddy-up!), the basic gist of what I’m getting that is that women are still not seen as equal to men in the workplace. Duh. But why?

Growing up (and this is something I went into in Part 1), I was taught by friends, families, society and whatever, that girls are sweetness and light. We begin life as adorable wee things with a penchant for pink and sweet tasting foods, and thereafter develop into hot young things. We blossom into adult carnations of our infantile selves, that is, we grow breasts and pluck our eyelashes and wear string bikinis, but we still are supposed to retain a doe-eyed youthfulness that suggests passivity. Girls are nice, whereas men have balls. The fact that courage, tenacity and strength are associated with the male scrotum says something profound, don’t you think?

I’ve had jobs where I’ve been told I had to show more cleavage, that I was hired to be eye candy, that I would never progress to a manager’s position because of my feminine and naturally jaded mis-comprehension for mathematics. Oh, and in no way could I carry boxes or approach drunken and disorderly customers. These were jobs for dudes.

Standing up for yourself isn’t easy. In past positions where I have stood up for myself after receiving what I felt was unfair treatment, I’ve been told by other employees to quit the shit-stirring and avoid getting on the boss’s bad side. There’s this inclination for women, and particularly young girls, to not want to be seen as disagreeable. They don’t want to be seen as a bitch. The world, and especially the media, adore difficult women because they make for excellent headlines (and studies even show that people bond more over their hatred of someone or something rather than a mutual interest). And although I was told by one of my superiors that my vagina prevented my progression to a managerial position, this same manager also remarked that girls have a propensity to avoid putting their foot down when it’s clearly needed, and also to muddle their roles of superior, mentor and best friend.

And I think that in a way, he was right.

Young girls aren’t really taught to negotiate. So when met with a situation wherein a little fearlessness, a little stubborness, nay, some balls, are required, what’s a girl to do? Where are we going wrong?

I don’t want to be seen as demanding, but when you’re often mistaken for a 16-year-old girl, a game face is always required.

I don’t have a one-size-fits-all solution for this dilemma. But I’d like to know how other women have successfully garnered respect in the workforce.

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I think I developed my obsession with reading after watching the film adaptation of Matilda. How ironic that a film inspired me to read. A film about a girl who reads like there’s some Olympics for retina-strain actually inspired me to unleash my inner book worm, when it was actually based on a book.  Anywho, I’m not sure how I came to the logic that consuming printed matter would give me AWESOME TOTALLY RADICAL super powers to like, chase my teacher out the door with a chalkboard duster or make my brother’s underwear give him a giant wedgie, but I did. So I read. Every freakin’ day. Big books, small books. Books about fairies. Books about boys, books about girls, books about people with blue skin and magic and vials of unicorn blood carried down the mountains on the back of a yack. It’s a habit I’ve continued to this day, although now I’m tre hipster and tote around orange penguin classics (cultural capital, yo!)

One of my favourite genres is Young Adult fiction. I secretly, really dig teeny bopper garbage. Growing up, I read Harry Potter and the sisterhood of the travelling pants, which are nice enough books about friendz for evah and loyalty and blah blah blah, but you know, I just can’t feel on par with these characters. I didn’t have a broomstick or a summer of love to gush about with my three best friends. They’re great forms of escapism, the perfect kryptonite tool for procrastinators anonymous, and the best way to forget you’re stuck in a bus in the rain an hour away from home. But one gets to a point in one’s life when one’s fantasy novels just don’t cut the mustard. They lack grit, they lack punch, and they lack bitingly obvious normalcy.  So I started reading other things.

In a response to an article in the Wall Street Journal about the impact of ‘dark’ Young Adult fiction, S.E Smith has written in defense of books which chronicle more serious themes such as rape, suicide, murder and racism. I love all forms of Young Adult fiction – from the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (gooey gooey friendships summer love BOYZ BOYZ OMG!) and Animorphs (does anyone remember their cool holographic covers!?) , to Laurie Halse Andersen’s Speak, a story of a young girl who refuses to speak after being raped at a party, and Candy by Kevin Brooks, the story of a young British prostitute (not to be confused with Luke Davies’ novel of the same name).

Whilst Gurdon over at WSJ condemns these books which “may even spread their plausibility and likelihood to young people who might otherwise never have imagined such extreme measures”, I’m gonna take my debased and immoral ass over to the camp which supports YA fiction. I think people fail to recognise the emotional depth of teenagers. I feel like there’s this perception that their frail and fragile minds will be too easily corrupted. In Gurdon’s defense, she does mention a good list of alternative reads for young girls and boys to read, which are not fantasy novels and which do describe the coming of age experience and triumphs over trials and tribulations (interestingly, she categorises these books by gender, which I think illustrates a running theme of segregation, i.e: young vs. old, male vs. female). Apparently, YA Fiction is responsible for perpetuating the behaviour they describe. It is, as Gurdon describes, a ‘darkness too visible’.

Self-destructive adolescent behaviors are observably infectious and have periods of vogue. That is not to discount the real suffering that some young people endure; it is an argument for taking care.

When I read this my mind instantly drew back to an episode of Q and A on the 23rd of May. When asked about the social/moral duties of an author, here’s what Leslie Cannold had to say:

You know, I do think that there’s something that should be slightly inspirational about fiction but the irony is you don’t do that by creating role models. You do that by populating the world with characters that are absolutely real and that have every kind of vice and virtue in them and then somehow trying to inspire people to love and want to emulate the characters who were the brilliant ones and to want to avoid being the miserable, cowardly, vicious ones.

One of the important thing to remember is that without darkness, there can be no light. That sounded strangely metaphysical, so let me put it this way: without the bad shit, there can be no good shit. This isn’t to say we need crime and violence in order to enjoy the amazing things that life has to offer, but they’re not going to go away if we write them out of literature.

Books with real, human issues and concerns that chronicle the trials and tribulations of a breathing living, talking, walking, breathing, shitting, cussing, fornicating, backstabbing human being don’t uphold the actions of the characters. They create an understanding of the human experience. Adolescence is a time in your life where your own emotions are so incomprehensible, so intangible and so alientating you can barely articulate your inner monologue (which probably accounts for the monosyllabic responses between parents and their kids). As you navigate the carefully molded worlds which an author has created, it’s like your creating a more comprehensible vision of your life experience. Which I guess relates back to the question of whether art should reflect life? I answer in the affirmative.

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