For your reading pleasure!
Should we tell little girls they’re pretty? I mean, of course we should! Right? Who doesn’t love the feeling of an adoring looker ogling at the outfit which took you like, FOREVER TO PUT TOGETHER OMG. Compliments are like big soul injections that pump you full of self esteem juice. That person actually noticed that I exfoliated – squee! But does a focus on a person’s outward beauty devalue their inner beauty?
Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything. It sets them up for dieting at age 5 and foundation at age 11 and boob jobs at 17 and Botox at 23. As our cultural imperative for girls to be hot 24/7 has become the new normal, American women have become increasingly unhappy. What’s missing? A life of meaning, a life of ideas and reading books and being valued for our thoughts and accomplishments.
Word.
Whilst we’re on the topic of self-image, Liz Jones has set off a firecracker with her criticism of a young girl’s choice to forego wearing makeup. She argues that an impeccable appearance is mandatory for front of house positions, and any deviation from any implicit and explicit uniform codes is an insult to the company you work for, and your customers.
Women who feel no compunction to improve what nature bestowed upon them are, in my experience, arrogant, lazy or deluded, and frequently all three.
This is especially true in the service industry, where a bare face is no more acceptable than a dentist with halitosis. It tells me that a woman doesn’t really care what others think of her.
Wearing even a little make-up shows respect to others, demonstrating on the outside that you are professional, a stickler for detail, someone who doesn’t cut corners.But there is one aspect of Ms Stark’s case that I do find puzzling: why does any intelligent women (whatever her workplace) need a manual to tell them what is or isn’t acceptable. Surely common sense should do?
This reminds me of something Gala Darling said in her podcast Love and Sequins. She says that keeping up appearances is just good manners. I work in retail. I wear makeup. I wear nice clothes. The world would be a perfect place if strangers could peer into our souls and tell that we have integrity, that we’re intelligent and caring individuals. Unfortunately, this isn’t how customer service works. You are judged upon your presentation, and this applies to other social situations too, if not most. I admire any girl who has the guts to walk past the mirror in the morning and be completely comfortable in her skin, head held high with a natural self confidence. However, I just haven’t reached that point yet (and I also really, really love wearing bright red lipstick!) What are your opinions? How much makeup do you wear to work?
Aaaaaannndd….yet another article on Bridesmaids, which I totally thought was over-hyped, but then I changed my mind about half-way through the movie and decided I loved its’ honest display of how complex, skrewy yet incredibly awesome and supportive female relationships can be. I saw a band-wagon travelling past and I have jumped straight on. I really appreciated how the token unattractive side-kicks were actually more realistic in the looks department, because honestly, it’s kind of an insult when Amanda Seyfried, Anne Hathaway and Emma Watson play that part. I really hope the success of Bridesmaids paves the success for more female comedians who don’t rely upon their Oscar-ready looks.
Why blogs for women don’t do shit for equality. I’m going to play the devil’s advocate here. I’d have to say this blog is exclusive – it’s written by a female, for other females, and doesn’t really take into account a male audience. Susannah Breslin, whom I don’t usually agree with but I consider an awesomely fierce superwoman regardless, argues that this withdrawal from the real world and into ‘girl world’ is actually counterproductive. I used to live near the beach in Sydney, and there was this amazing women’s pool that I used to frequent in the summer. It was a place where you could go and sit and relax in the company of other women and not have to worry about getting perved on by creepy guys and just be you. I really liked going there because most women dropped their judgmental egos at the door, so there was less pressure to have a bangin’ bikini body. You were at complete liberty to let those jiggly bits do their thang and not have to worry about an audience. So I do believe we need these spaces. I do believe they are havens. What do you think of blogs for women? Or of spaces for women in general?
Lady Ga-Ga: brazen opportunist or LGBT warrior? I will admit with my duck-taped nipples aimed high that I am a fan of the Ga-Ga. She has a talent for wearing outrageous get-ups, manipulating the media with imaginary penises and writing ridiculous songs that are just. So. Damned. Catchy! In her interview with The Advocate, Gaga says she’s bisexual. Personally, I feel bisexuals cop a lot of flack. They represent the ‘other’. They’re not gay, they’re not straight. How do you pigeon hole them? They are neither black nor white, bu encompass both sides of the sexuality spectrum. So why the lack of support for bisexuals? I mean, the LGBT symbol is a rainbow for diversity, right?
This up and coming documentary about body image in the media looks interesting, and I like that it targets women of all ages and not just young girls.
This is the show that is on every lesbian’s mind this week. The Candy Bar Girls appears to be a British carbon copy of The Real L Word, but don’t judge it until you see it. Candy Bar Girls is a lot more of a docu-style reality television show, with a Big Brother style voice over narrating with this slightly David Attenborough tone (Ah! And here you have the lesbian in her natural habitat!) and for those reasons seems a lot less forced than The Real L Word. Another well-scripted reality television show, or an actual chance to transgress the lesbian stereotype bla bla bla yadda yadda patriarchy prejudice hoojey-ma-flop. Check out the cringe-worthy promo below, but then go and watch the whole thing.
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Oh and check this out – FIGHT CLUB FOR THE 20TH CENTURY LADY.
Happy Sunday ladies! x
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