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There is a small handful of movies and books I covet that stay secret in my cupboard, or jumbled up amongst other files somewhere inside my external hard drive. Not because I’m hiding an obsession for fetish porn, and not because I’m one of those elitists who run around stamping their feet every time their favourite bands gets their big break because ISAWTHEMFIRSTGAHCONFORMITYBLAHBLAH. I don’t really talk about my secret love of riot grrrl, or my predilection for reading Sylvia Plath before bed, or how I really, really related to Owen Wilson’s character in Midnight in Paris because I would seriously just die if Gertrude Stein offered to read my manuscript. I’m not wont to talk about how when I was 10, my idol was neighbourhood super-sleuth Harriet the Spy, the protagonist of Louise Fitzhugh’s children’s novel of the same name. Nor do I expect any nods of recognition when I mentioned that my favourite singer is Fiona Apple, or that in spite of her narcotic addiction and history for leaving the broken hearts of fallen men in her wake, I completely and utterly idolise Elizabeth Wurtzel’s autobiographical style of writing (no matter how self-indulgent it may be!). Talking about the people I admire is usually met with a blank fluttering of eyelashes, and within the past year or two of chinos/blunt fringes/granny clothes/over-sized spectacles becoming the the riguer du jour of self-confessed”non-comformist’s”,  I’m usually dodging the hipster label (I like mainstream too! I swear!) and waxing lyrical about authenticity and artifice in 2011.

I like a lot of artists/authors/thought leaders who could probably slot in quite easily within the categories of obscure, or alternative, or weird. I also love Katy Perry, Hannah Montana, Sex and the City and Top Model. I don’t shy away from these particular interests. Perhaps it’s because when you’re drawn to both the long tail, or counter-culture, and the short tail, (i.e.: mainstream), you’re more likely to find common ground amongst your peers when you throw as few long shots as possible, and pick a safe topic to talk about.

However, I don’t want to hoard an extensive list of underground artists in an attempt to appear different, unusual or culturally evolved. So as proof, here I offer a list of talented, interesting, amazing and sometimes fictional women/girls whom I hold close to my heart, and invite you revel in their precocious, disturbing and inspiring abilities as well.

Fiona Apple
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Born Fiona Apple McAffee Maggart, the 19-year-old received her first Grammy award at age 19 for her debut release Tidal, an album I saved up all my pocket money at age 12 to buy. A survivor of a rape in her preteen years, Apple’s opened up about her eating disorder and the attack in her music and interviews. As she sings “I was washed ashore/And he took my pearl”, Apple’s harrowing lament for the loss of her innocence cemented her melancholic music a favourite amongst my collections of CDs. Hardly known as an iron woman (she’s been known to openly burst into tears throughout interviews), Apple’s display of raw and unadultered emotion was something I could always relate to. Her music these days is a lot less sorrowful, but she still maintains the jazzy alternative rock sound she’s become famous for.

Harriet the Spy

I can’t remember my professional ambitions before I wanted to be a writer, so, fittingly, I can’t remember a lot of my aspirations before I read Harriet the Spy. A be-speckled eleven-year-old with writerly ambitions, Harriet is also a super-sleuth. She wants to be a writer, so she notes down any and all observations of those around her – no person or topic is sacred. Not only does she scrutinise the lives of those closest to her, every afternoon after school she takes a regular “spy route”, surveiling the neighbourhood town folk with a curious, anthropological eye. She even goes so far as to breaking and entering other peoples’ homes as she records their daily lives, hoping for inspiration and a story to tell. Not only is Harriet fearless, she’s feisty and super smart to boot. I imagine she’s probably grow up to be an upper class Veronica Mars.

Elizabeth Wurtzel

Shockingly candid and unapologetic,  Elizabeth Wurtzel is most (in)famous for her signature confessional-style prose. She’s well-known for writing the novel Prozac Nation, an account of a youth spent reveling in decadence, a cocktail of narcotics, self-loathing, SSRIs and extraneous craziness (the book was later made into a film, with Hollywood’s dark horse Christina Ricci in the starring role of Wurtzel in her college years, an adaptation Wurtzel herself has described as quite shit). Now somewhat of a reformed bad girl, Wurtzel is now an accredited American corporate attorney. She still writes occasionally, detailing the exploits of her past through eyes now older and somewhat wiser. But if you’re going to read one book of her’s, make it Bitch. It’s an extended ode to women behaving badly, and is enough to inspire the rabble-rouser in us all.

Evan Rachel Wood

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After some mild apprehension about featuring the face of Gucci, I decided to include ERW in this list because although she’s in a fragrance campaign for an international luxury brand, she is still very far from house-hold name status in Australia. Most famous for dating Marilyn Manson, and most recently playing the role of Sophie-Anne the lesbian vampire queen in True Blood, ERW first caught my eye as Jessie Sammler on Once Again. She is, as you would say, an “indie darling”, choosing roles in primarily independent films, portraying a myriad of troubled teens. Wood’s performances leave no doubt that not only is she enamoured with the characters she creates for the screen, she’s also fiercely intelligent, which makes me think she’d be an awesome karaoke partner, or the perfect person to be stuck in a Jet Star toilet with. Brownie points: she’s openly bisexual, and got to kiss Mischa Barton pre-OC.

Daisies

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A 1966 Czech film about two girls, Marie I and Marie II, Daisies is the ultimate rebellion film for girls who feel like making a ruckus. The film has no plot (what surrealist film makes sense though, honestly?), and is basically just a montage of the Maries playing pranks and causing chaos in a world that’s gone to shit, so like, why not?

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I don’t consider myself a ‘nice girl’. I’ve informed friends before that I don’t think of myself as a particularly ‘nice’ person. Most people assume I’m fishing for compliments, that I need my delicate ego stroked, so they respond with a stroke of the shoulder and a a cooing reassurance. “Oh now don’t be silly young girl! Tut-tut! You are the epitome of sweetness and light! You bake cupcakes, for christ’s sake!”. Or something as equally well-meaning yet condescending. I do indeed bake, and I do indeed have friends, but my personality is a little more complex than that of a bubbly, warm and kind-hearted young girl with a penchant for knitting. I think most people, let alone women, can relate. We’re kind to our friends but horrible to our mothers. We give to charity but steal from strangers. We offer seats to the elderly but forget siblings birthdays. We’re ying, we’re yang, and all matter of grey in between. We aim to be nice, to be fair, to be honest, but sometimes we fail catastrophically. And sometimes, nice just doesn’t cut it.

I read this book by Elizabeth Wurtzel last year titled Bitch. She’s one of my favourite writers, who gained fame during the fin de siècle of 90s decadence. I devoured one of her earlier books, Prozac Nation, back in high school. Driven by my own depressive black hole and appetite for angst, I needed something a little grittier than the Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants (FYI: I have read the entire series. Great escapism). Wurtzel’s story struck a cord with me, and I lapped up her raw, poetic, unashamedly and brutally honest memoir of a woman who’s always felt a bit shit, didn’t know why, and would take it out on herself and others. No holds barred. As a high-schooler, this resonated with me at a time in my life (and I’m sure many other young girls’ lives too) when you’re not too particularly happy with yourself, nay, have fallen into a pit of self-loathing and unexplainable resentment towards the universe. Including yourself. Especially yourself. Everyone else appears like a bombastic super nova; friends are more like radiant shooting stars whilst you feel more like Pluto. You’re not really even a planet. Just a lump of rock, drifting through the universe.

So when I got my hands on Bitch, I was enthralled by deliciously degenerate accounts of misbehaved women in all their immoral glory. Elizabeth Wurtzel had captured my attention yet again. She writes of women who openly talked about masturbation, women like Courtney Love who gyrated on stage in baby-doll dresses and smeared lipstick, and responded to the adoration of idolising fans with a growling retort – “You don’t even fucking know me“. As a 21-year-old university student working in a bar, my mind began to open like a thorny rose in spring. As a woman, I was expected to act a certain way, be a certain ‘thing’. To smile, all the fucking time, to be cheerful, to hold my tongue, to flirt with customers if I wanted more tips, to look pretty even if I felt like complete crap, to take criticism lying down. I was getting pretty damned well fed up.

As I’ve gotten a bit older, and I like to think a bit wiser, I’ve started to realise that it’s okay to be imperfect. To have fights, to be called a bitch, to be a goddamned rabble-rouser if you bloody well feel like it. To not fit this mould of sweetness and light, of delicate austerity and soft-spokeness. I doubt the Women’s Suffrage would have achieved the right to vote if they’d stuck to their pleases and thank yous. Growing up, I was taught that difficult women were abhorred. I loved Alanis Morrisette, and although I didn’t understand some of sexually explicit lyrics, her rough-edged acidic voice pulsated throughout me. I was taught to sit still, to be seen and not heard, and Alanis taught me to let go and scream and cuss because being female did not equate with being idle. I was taught that characters like Roseanne Barr’s fictional anti-heroine were repulsive with their deviation from the norm, their self-indulgence and back-talk to the man of the house. “But these shows aren’t even funny! She’s crass and rude misbehaved!” I was told. She’s perfect, I would think.

When someone tells me that I’m nice, or sweet, I do find it quite superficial. People tend to have this illusion of depressed women – that we’re pretty when we cry, that there’s beauty in the breakdown. Anxiety and depression can wreak havoc on your personality, render your actions and thoughts inhumane, violent, unprofessional, uncouth, anti-social and un-feminine. I should know. However, I’m also strong. I can channel my anger into productive energy, and I know when to speak up if I feel I’m being wronged.

I don’t hate myself for being nasty. The hardest part of growing up (do we ever really? At times I still feel like that slightly overweight 12-year-old, lost in the mirror with a predeliction for despair) is getting to know yourself. I’ve learnt to accept that I’m impatient, a poor listener, hot-tempered, selfish. I could go on. But I’m okay with these things. But are other women? Someone said something interesting to me this week regarding self-love and the acceptance of all of yourself. In order to truly accept and love yourself, you’ve got to admit that hey, sometimes you fuck up, nay, sometimes you are a fuck up. You’re messy, you procrastinate, you don’t always return phone calls. You’re not the prettiest, but perhaps you’ve got a razor sharp wit. You’re not perfect, but perhaps you’re perfect enough?

“I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do. I ain’t no damsel in distress, and I don’t need to be rescued so put me down punk. Maybe you’d prefer a maiden fair, isn’t there a kitten stuck up in a tree somewhere?”
-Ani DiFranco.

Here’s some more amazing quotes to channel your inner mischief maker!

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I’m super excited about getting this article finally out into the world. I approached my university’s student magazine (the controversial, infamous and occasionally un-PC Tharunka) with the piece, and they’ve agreed to publish it in this year’s last edition. High fives all around.


It takes a strong, if not comfortably batty woman to affirm, “If I’m going to be miserable and sad, I might as well look glamourous whilst at it.” Sad but pretty, and depressingly alluring – crazy women are a modern fascination. It’s more than a vivid fascination with watching a burning wreck; there’s a beauty in the breakdown. It’s an assertion American writer Elizabeth Wurtzel makes in her neo-feminist non-fiction book Bitch, in one of her long winded but equally enrapturing chapters regarding the glamourisation of mental illness. Or, rather, the attitude towards an emerging open door policy on public discussion of mental diseases. Whether she was deducing that an air of “elegantly wasted” is merely the new riguer de jour, or that the beauty in the breakdown is simply an about face to mask some inner shame, is not entirely clear. However, the first point Wurtzel makes – that depression is the new black – shouldn’t be disregarded. Countless tell-all autobiographies line the shelves, as former drug addicts, murderers, and victims of abuse relay a life’s worth of confessions for the publishing world to capitalise upon.  We’ve got Maryan Hornbacher’s Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia; Toni’s Don’t Tell Daddy and an accompanying sequel detailing the incestuous rapes she was forced to endure at the hands of a frightening father figure; Sickened, a tale of a Manchausen’s By Proxy Childhood; Prozac Nation, Elizabeth Wurtzel’s first book and autobiographical account of drug use, depression, suicide attempts and manic episodes; the list goes on and on. And readers devour these books; they’re enraptured by the pain of others. It’s almost as if these confessionals have the same impressiveness and air of authenticity as a doctor’s certificate. These autobiographies are like a Phd in life suffering. “I am a qualified battler,” they appear to be saying. “I have a case of the crazies, I’m loud, proud and out of control.”


Once upon a time mental illness was kept hush-hush. The inflicted were labotomised, with the removal of the frontal lobe ensuring the inflicted kept their mouths shut. Institutions kept the unconventionally morbid thinkers locked away, thus stigmatising a life-threatening disease and leaving other sufferers with a feeling that something just ‘aint right up in the top paddock. Alienation abounds, the viscous cycle continues. But where keeping mum was the trend when something was amiss with mother dearest, when society’s pretty poppies really failed to dazzle and wilted in the public view, open dialogue is now favoured over sweeping all the mess under the carpet. Let’s talk about our problems, we say. Let’s hold hands, join support groups, write novels about our inner conflict and psychotic dialogue.


Let’s take Sylvia Plath for example. The famous American poet was popularised and lauded for her confessional style prose throughout the 1950s, earning her place in publishing history, ordaining her emblematic of women’s literature. Plath gained a level of fame and relevancy her husband Ted Hughes never attained. Hughes does indeed have claim to a thrown of his own inside the literary sphere; he ranked 4th on The Times 50 Greatest British Writers since 1945 in 2008, and was British Poet Laureate from 1984 until he died in 1998. It is not a question of whether his collection of works was better than Plath’s, nor can the feminist argument regarding Hughes’ treatment of his wife really account for his smaller fan club. Deflecting blame for Plath’s suicide onto Hughes cannot be causal for the longevity of Plath’s work. But they do advance bibliophile favouritism towards her. Plath admirers label Hughes a heartless and brooding murderer, a talented killer without a tangible weapon, skilled in the arts of suppression and manipulation. Equipped with his upper hand in his and Plath’s emotionally volatile relationship, he is accused of accelerating the untimely death of a beloved patron saint of suffering. An alleged womaniser, apparently completely unfaithful to all of his wives, Assia Wevill even details his domestic tyranny in A lover of Unreason, an autobiographical look at Hughes’ mistreatment of his mistresses and bona fide partners. Plath’s highly depressed and insane behaviour (the poet was said to bathe at strange hours at other people’s dinner parties, and accounts of her biting fetish have also surfaced over the decades) romanticise her condition. It is without a doubt that her condition was the vehicle behind her famous works. Yes, Plath can attribute her success to insufficient serotonin levels. What’s your reason?


However, perhaps it’s not that these confessions are overly eager to embellish the disease, or eagerness to portray a striking similarity to the infamously disturbed Sylvia Plaths or Courtney Loves or Billie Holidays or Zelda Fitzgeralds. Maybe a desire to appear special, somewhat fragile and delicate and ultimately more complex, is not the driving force behind these biographical experiences. Perhaps an unwillingness to suffer in silence, and instead publicly support those who too share whatever affliction it may be is what’s actually behind all these confessional publications. You are not alone; I am damaged too. Human beings seek companionship, whether it’s congregational mourning such as African traditional bereavement, or a good bawling with friends over a packet of Tim Tams.


The scenario could possibly be that mental illness is a fact of life. With 45% of Australians aged 16-65 suffering from a mental illness at any point in their life (ABS, 2007), one could conclude that that big black tunnel’s getting a lot more cosier. The “over-diagnosis” of mental illness is something explored in Wurtzel’s first novel, the autobiographical Prozac Nation.  Is it comforting to find reprieve in the company of other medicated beings? Or is it a blow to our natural coping mechanisms, squandered and left to whither away after chemically-induced serotonin levels become naturalised, replace our instincts, and eventually become the norm? Is normal human emotion is now medicalised sadness?


 “Part of the appeal is stepping into someone else’s soap opera, but that’s not necessarily an exploitative thing,” says Rachel Hills, Phd student at UNSW. “People long to know what it would be like to live life in someone else’s shoes – that’s part of the appeal of any autobiography, or even a novel. I think it can be read as a display of empathy. There’s also the obvious appeal to people who are experiencing the same issues: many sociologists argue that when people feel different in some way, they will seek out narratives that help them make sense of their experiences.”


Mental health was a major issue at the last election (which, at the time of writing, we’re still in the middle of), with vigils held all over Australia by activist group Get Up! in support of a better mental health scheme. The big black dog doesn’t have to be the elephant in the room (nor the headline of every magazine).


Photo credit: Payton Guerra

 

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