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I’m not a natural humourist. I don’t have any April Fools jokes for you, but I do have a some stuff for you that you can read with your eyes and feel smarter afterwards.

The Hunger Games is turning out to be the series that keeps on giving. The character of Katniss is being dissected in the feminist blogosphere, and Autumn Whitefield-Madrano’s post has got to be one of the most persuasive for reading the books. (The New Inquiry)

If you’re in the Southern Hemisphere, chances that you’ve spent the past few weeks trawling ASOS for new winter threads is fairly high (guilty!). Tanning isn’t as high on my agenda anymore, but I do admit to being a huge fan of the fake-bake. Sun-worshippers call me a fraud, but when it’s so dangerous for your skin, is it really worth risking skin cancer just to look good? (The New Inquiry)

Australian Radio royalty Jackie O talks about her other half, Kyle Sandilands, why she’s not a feminist, and her choice to stay silent amidst the controversy of her co-worker’s most recent comments. (Sydney Morning Herald)

Is Dolly Magazine’s annual model comp bad for girls’ self esteem? (Mama Mia)

“One of the first things I did when I became Editor In Chief of Dolly was to axe the Dolly Model Contest. At the time I felt strongly it was a negative thing for the readers and a negative thing for the Dolly brand.

I wanted the magazine to make a strong stand against the idea of valuing teenage girls purely for the way they look. Because no matter how you try to dress it up, the modelling industry is 100% based on external appearance, something few girls can ever change about themselves no matter how much they torture themselves. Girls who are able to model are a tiny tiny minority who were simply born with certain genetics.” – Mia Freedman

Mini Kerr posing for Dolly Mag! Totally remember this issue.

The Australian Government is giving citizens the choice to be heard on same-sex marriage. Go! Do! (APH)

If blogging is not a labour of love, don’t do it. I wish I’d read this MONTHS ago! (Gloss)

Lucky enough to be going to Dinah Shore? Here’s a quick guide of fun activities from the lovely ladies at Autostraddle. (Autostraddle)

Consider yourself a guru on all things queer in your hometown? Go share you beacons of knowledge! (Autostraddle)

Confessionals of a Hanson Fan. Oh yes. I remember kissing my posters good night too. (Rookie)

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Happy palindrome day! I’m not even sure how I’ve had time to read anything this week, what with my life being hell cray-cray and all. I have never worked so many hours in my life. Brain is mushy.

Anyways, go learn. Here, let me help you.

Why reading women’s writing is important in the 21st Century. (The F-Bomb)

Interestingly enough, along with the joy that came with reading the works of women – and not just women, but women who broke some incredible barriers by writing hundreds of years ago – came frustration. These women wrote of the type of sexism and double standards that, though they’re clearly not as bad today, are still very much present. That was the central paradox of reading these women writers: it was both astounding and inspiring that their work was still so relevant, but in some ways that relevance was beyond upsetting.

Mamma Mia writer Rick went to the gay marriage march in Sydney! So jealous! God I miss Sydney sometimes… (Mamma Mia)

Photo by Rick @ Mama Mia

Rabbit Write solves some bisexual dramas for shy ladies. Great advice. Love this chick! (Rabbit Write)

Natasia explains why cover charges are enforced at gay bars, and potential ways to get around paying, none of which involve sleeping with anybody! (Hot Femme)

i is so tortured

Why we need to stop making an archetype of women  and see imperfections as part of 21st century feminism. (The Awl)

Of course I’ve known Allys and Buffys and Peggys, but I’ve known a hundred other kinds of women too, not all of them middle class and/or white. (I know!) The idea that we share, as women, necessarily common interiorities—rather than common treatment from the world outside our tiny, skull-sized kingdoms—well, it is, and always has been, to put it politely, utter bunk.

What happens when you like women…but don’t want to date them? (XO Jane)

Chloe takes a shot at Kreayshawn, remains eternally hilarious whilst doing so. (Being Gay Means Being Brave)

I am not the only one who hates Bridesmaids. Sweet jubilation! (Feministe)

Do old fashioned values still exist? Apparently not. (Eat the Damn Cake)

 

Pow pow! Happy Sunday!

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This video made my day! Watch it for some warm and fuzzy feelings.

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Hello amazing humans! How’s your Sunday fun-day going? GAMFP has a few tumble weeds drifting across it’s pages lately. This week though, I’m not going to apologise. Occasionally, a girl’s got to dedicate her strength and energy elsewhere. This week, family has been my priority. So whilst I haven’t been writing, here’s some links for your leisurely reading. That’ll learn ya!

Ex-porn star Sasha Grey read to some kids in primary school, media shit storm ensues. Here she is on the view talking about the stigma of forever being a porn actress, her choices for working in the industry, and making the porn industry more progressive. (Lipstick Feminists)

Femme visibility is basically a huge problem for queer girls with non-stereotypical gay attire. Sick of being asked if you’re really queer? Here’s what to do if your gayness barometer is a little off kelter. No head shaving required! Unless you want to, of course. (Autostraddle)

You definitely don’t need to concede your femmeness to be read as queer or feel less invisible. The most important thing is that you never feel like you’re dressing for someone else and that you love your personal style and HAVE FUN with it. You should never wear something that makes you feel false. You do you. No, seriously.

Those Autostraddle girls be the wisest in all the land. Here’s a handy guide to getting funky for the helpless. (Autostraddle)

The trailer for Brave is finally out. I might be wrong here, but does it look like this powerball of red, frizzy ferociousness has no love interest? Heavens! Don’t make me clutch my pearls! Super excited about this movie, and not just because I love Scottish accents.

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Do we really need to explain our sexuality with pop music lyrics? (Social Justice League)

I think the most serious problem with this argument is that it reinforces the idea that we need an excuse to be queer. As a result, using this line subtly supports the idea that being queer requires excusing in some way. Don’t use it. Don’t allow straight people to generate an understanding of queer sexuality that sounds like: “Well, of course Bob wouldn’t wish to be queer, but he was born this way. I guess we better give him equal rights – poor Bob, he just can’t help it. We shouldn’t punish him for something he didn’t choose!”

Lady G: friend or foe?

Natasia’s good advice for the happening sappho is infiltrating the web. Here’s a guest post she did for Enigma on what to do if you can’t stop drunk texting that girl. (Enigma)

Australian Prime Minister Julia Gillard has chosen not to make gay marriage legal. I used to like Julia. Truly, I would resent jibes at her ginger locks and tell naysayers to give the woman a bloody chance. But let’s be honest, the majority of citizens vote for a politician’s likeability, not their policies. And Julia has red hair. Like an orangutang. Ick. Gross. How dare she lead our country! If ever there were a woman to lead our country, I would rather she agnostic, just as Julia Gillard is. Social progressiveness is a must, so the fact that she was child-less (heavens to Betsy!) and unmarried, led me to believe that out of any politicians, Julia Gillard would be embracing the rainbow and backing marriage equality. Apparently not so. The journalist has an interesting take on the matter – is Julia against marriage…full stop? (ABC.net.au)

There’s a documentary about lesbians in my old home-town! Does anyone personally know these ladies? (Newtowngirls.com)

Girls with higher IQs are more likely to do drugs. True or false? Read this article to find out. (Autostraddle)

Hey girl, hey! Scarlet writes about unwanted male attention. Can a girl just walk outside and breathe and buy batteries in peace? Pretty please? (Early Bird Gets the Worm)

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It is a deliciously sunny Sunday in Perth. Today, I celebrated the most laziest day of the week by sleeping in till 11, eating dahl, going to the gym, and just generally dedicating myself to feeling awesome. I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday too! Here’s some digital food for thought.

Who/What/Wear? Do the clothes maketh the man or woman? Do we perform gender with polka dots? With frills? With certain colours? I like wearing pants, suspenders and big chunky men’s watches. But I have this long mop of hair which is this huge gender signifier which alerts people to the fact that I am a woman. Hear me roar I WHIP MY HAIR BACK AND FORTH. Furthermore, how do you perform sexual orientation? Dress as a girl, and it will be assumed that you’re attracted to the opposite sex. Will clothing or hair EVER be neutral? I honestly doubt it. What do you think? (This Aint’ Livin’)

Anna over at the Pursuit of Harpyness brings the forth the latest instalment of the Feminism Live Blogging series to talk about the meaning of feminism and the different branches of activism. Is there a place for all of them? Do they cross-over? What constitutes membership of either? Is professional feminism firmly rooted in white privilege (thus entrenched in inequality)? (Pursuit of Harpyness)

The Queen of bootylicious bodaciousness, her crowning fierceness Beyonce, headlined Glastonbury Festival. She was the first woman in 22 years to do so. (The Guardian)

Photo: Alicia Canter for the Guardian

The Thought Catalogue has a few hilarious, a few poignant, and a few fairly WTF observations about girlhood. (The Thought Catalogue)

….And a few as equally LOL-worthy and tear-jerkingly endearing about boys. What is it with men and laundry?!?!? And yes, they mention peeing standing up! (The Thought Catalogue)

Gay marriage and why it should make the world do a happy dance! Jessica Irvine writes about how gay marriage actually benefits the whole of society and even the economy, whether you’re in a same-sex relationship or not. (Sydney Morning Herald)

Lesbians: We make the world a better place. Source: Weheartit.com

A delightful post in which The Frisky addresses the most annoying declaration of all time. Every time a straight girl says “I wish I were a lesbian! It’d be so much easier!”, I die a little inside. I then quickly recover and want to punch walls. These sorts of attitudes are the bane of any lesbian’s existence. It devalues the relationship between two women as frivolous, lacking in emotional depth, and imposes this sort of ‘play-date’ scenario. Is a lesbian relationship easier? I don’t think I’ve ever experienced so much drama! (The Frisky)

Guys can be selfish, crude, dirty, sneaky and even abusive at their worst. But women can be all of these things, too. Women lie. Women cheat. Women steal. Lesbians do all of the above. And the worst part is they will do it with your best friend, your ex-girlfriend or someone you probably hang out with on a regular basis, because the dating pool is exponentially smaller, especially if you live in a small town.

Fox fans unite! This post contributes yet another explanation as to why we can’t watch Megan lie about on motor cycles in tank tops and short shorts. (Early Bird Catches the Worm)

A few weeks ago I caught a snippet from a Shia LaBeouf interview in the back pages of Famous, claiming that “Megan [Fox] developed this Spice Girl strength, this woman-empowerment [stuff] that made her feel awkward about her involvement with Michael [Bay] who some people think is a very lascivious filmmaker, the way he films women,” but wasn’t able to locate it again til this week.

This once again feeds into that gendered school of thought, where it’s believed that chicks should be grateful for what they’re given, and offer up their empty bowls for some more sub-standard slop whilst pleading “Please sir, can I have some more?” Or perhaps that Megan should have known that she was going to be eye candy, because Hollywood is misogynistic and it’ll never change and bla bla bla yadda yadda. I can’t claim to actually know what shit went down between Bay and Fox, but I’m always interested in hearing what other girls think of Megan Fox! Girls seems to either hate her with the fire of a thousand thrush infections, or are forever spamming the Tumblrverse with images of her in a state of undress. Shoot me your thoughts!

Photo: Wenn.com

An interview with my favourite Hello Kitty human incarnation, Gala Darling! (About Face)

I would absolutely love to go see this photography exhibition in London about girls and their bedrooms. I really believe a person’s bedroom is a true indicator of their personality, and a very, very private place indeed. I love taking photos of mine! (The Guardian)

An interview with fashion blogger turned girl-culture guru Tavi, in which she talks about the global phenomenon of Slutwalks and dressing like a grandma. I wish I was this cool at 15 (heck, I wish I were as cool as Tavi now!) (Refinery 29)

And here’s a little booster shot so you can finish Sunday on a happy note! Psych Central dispels some nasty rumours surrounding happiness. (Psych Central)

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Elsewhere in the blogosphere…

I love a good visualised pun! Photo via AllTop

Purple Power delivers an almighty blow to inequality as NY State legalises gay marriage!  Yesterday was a day to mark history (and herstory!). However, the state law is buried under a messy heap of federal legislation, which might mean that all the young and hot things in love out there might not be getting a break on their taxes.

I Am Not My Uterus – This is the blog post that had the Twitter kids slinging mud pies at each other all week. Clem Bastow’s article in defense of deliberately barren women polarised the blogosphere into two groups – those already on a vitally important errand to Babyco, and those who’d rather toss the baby out with the bath water (kidding! Kind of). Women who’ve remained childless rallied in defense of Clem (myself included), whilst mothers and fathers alike saw it as an attack on their choices, an immoral decision, or clearly in breach of what mother nature intended.

Miss Bastow, you would be best to simply stay silent rather than use your words to spread your own negativity, weirdness and confusion. Too many young women (and men) have been encouraged to supress their natural inclinations by the likes of you to their regret latter.

The reality of nature can not be altered by newspapers articles: reliable female fertillity is only between the ages of about 18-35 and once the opportunity is gone, it is gone forever. Young men and women waste enough time building a carear without you demoralising them.

Coming from a family of women who have all decided to marry and have children late (or sometimes, not at all), any plans for me personally getting up the duff are yet to be conceived. However, but the government focuses on working families, and even Barbie gets pregnant, I can’t help but feel that it’s expected of me. However, doesn’t everyone feel as though something is expected of them? Women with children feel pressured to raise perfect children and somehow climb the corporate ladder simultaneously, whilst women without children feel like they’re being vilified for putting themselves first. Whether you’re a mother or not, women are defined by their (lack of) children.
Unravelling Blake Lively – Is it a bubbly facade? What is this amazonian beauty like when the camera isn’t rolling? Just who is this blonde icon with enough charm to get the Queen of England naked? Can she stand on her own two feet or does she need to lean on the likes of Leo and teeter on her Loubotins to get ahead? Blake Lively represents a sort of obsession with celebrity. She’s seemingly perfect – a bangin’ body fit for a swimsuit campaign, she’s tight with the emperor and empress of fashion themselves, Karl Lagerfield and Anna Wintour, and also has claim to the lead role in the hottest teen drama since we were welcomed to the OC, bitch. And she has really, really pretty hair. But is she as credible as she seems? Can she act? Can she do the splits? How much wood would a Blake Lively chuck if a Blake lively could chuck wood?

Blake has effectively created a brand for herself. She’s a hustler, climbing up that A-List ladder towards shooting-stardom. She’s working it because she realises that it’s a long way to the top if you want to rock and roll, and you can’t get by without a little help from your Hollywood friends. And if her tabloid covers are anything to go by, it appears to be working. You know you love her.

Ms. Magazine interviews everyone’s favourite huggable green gargantuan, Feminist Hulk. Hulk talks about endless waves of loving smash, his effective abuse of the caps-lock, and the never ending fight to destroy bull-shit.
The sexually abusive tradie as a stereotype – Bitch magazine discusses the prescriptive stereotype of the objectifying construction worker. Is it a self-fulfilling prophecy? Is it a case of having the name so adopting the game?

It’s probably for this reason that working class men are complained about so frequently at talks on street harassment, depicted alongside news articles and blog posts about the issue, and featured in anti-street harassment videos – all of which reify the idea that working class men are harassers. This classist framework really bothers me. Maybe it’s because I grew up working class and my step-father is a truck driver — a profession that’s often perceived as being full of men who demonstrate lewd behavior (a stereotype that contributes to the erasure of the growing number (5%) of women in the industry, but I digress) — that I am resistant to such overarching characterizations. My familiarity with men in these fields makes me sympathetic to arguments of perception vs. intention. Social behaviors differ across class identification, and what may be deemed “crass” or “trashy” or “inappropriate” according to middle or upper class values might be entirely acceptable in my family’s neck of the woods. So, whose standards should get top billing?

Photo: AP/Tina Fineberg via Bitch Media

Another Bridesmaids review. I couldn’t not mention Kristin’s Wigg’s debut film. Most reviews are so quick to confirm that Bridesmaids is so cool! Because it’s like the Hangover! But for chicks! It has fart jokes AND Rose Bryne! Winning! This one’s for those who aren’t stuck in the body of a teenage boy and are a little apprehensive about seeing the female cinematic incarnation of a Judd Appatow film.

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Style Bloggers and the Form/Function debate (and no, I’m not being ironic) – Are they more than just a pretty face? Are style blogs narcissistic mediums for cashed up clothes horses? Are bloggers lives a precious commodity? Could they die in a freak gasoline accident?  Fashion blogs are another form of fashion escapism, except much more affordable, accessible and personable. They blur the line between consumer culture and personal gratification with their diary-like form. We want to know the chick in the knitted jumper (isn’t even Russh employing this personability into their magazine shoots now?), but we also love honest fashion advice. We imagine that the blogger is just like us, although it might not always be the case (many already have profiles within the fashion industry or connections of the monetary or human variety). “Fashion bloggers,” argues author Lauren Burvill, “are undeniably successful. But at what price to the industry?” I don’t think they’re costing the industry – they’re just a new guarde of stylists.

Photo: Gary Pepper Vintage

BFFs are like a good wine – they get better with age.

“Humans are hard-wired to attach in a non-romantic way. There are evolutionary advantages for women to bond: to take care of each other, to provide a community and share responsibilities that increase the likelihood of survival,” Saltz says. “But friendships also fend off loneliness and depression.” – Gail Saltz, clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center.

S.E Smith from This ‘Aint Livin’ talks about sexism and the female journalist. It’s a must read for any investigative lass.

For women in journalism, the undercurrent of sexism is always there and they’re often told to ignore it. Just focus on the story. Or manipulate it to your advantage (because women, you know, they are always about the feminine wiles and exploiting situations whenever possible). Definitely don’t complain, because if you do, you might get taken off the story and reassigned to the gardening desk. If you’re bothered that stories about women end up in the ‘life and style’ section you would do well to keep it to yourself, because no one wants to hear about it. The sexism is just an occupational hazard, you see, it is part of the job.

Katie Holmes uses her almighty Kegel muscles to squeeze the scoop out of her interviewees in Thank You For Smoking.

Nubby Twiglet has compiled a list of the best eye candy of the glossy variety. LOOK AT THE PURRDDYY.

Girl With a Satchel gives Cleo a high five for 10-page happiness special, but brandishes her digital wooden spoon for contradicting their soft-feminism with cover girl Beyonce’s bandaged body suit.

My new favourite website Autostraddle does the most hilariously accurate recap of the latest gay-centric episode of Pretty Little Liars. PLL is cat-nip for sapphic sisters – this show is FUCKING LADEN with lesbian undertones.

Spencer, you're looking very Shane today.

And to finish off your week with a ball-bashing to wet weather blues, here’s some wise words from all time bodacious babe Marilyn Monroe over at Yes and Yes.

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