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Sweet jubilation! Another clarion call for more girl love! (Dream, Delight, Inspire)

None of this plz.

Rabbit White challenges the definition of sex. What constituted doing it? What about when you’re flying solo? Or a lesbian? Or a gay man? (The Frisky)

I started to define sex more broadly. I think that each individual defines what sex is for them. For me, sex can be any physical, sensual intimacy that builds to a sexual release, not just penetration.The method of categorization that I started using was that if it felt like sex, then it was sex. It’s kind of like trying to define porn, you just know it when you see it.

My girlfriend asked me, “Isn’t it great that girls can do this?” as we sprawled on her bed, touching and rolling around.

I laughed.

But really I thought, “Yeah, it is great. Why can’t I have sex like this with men as well?”

Sarah Von says the world doesn’t suck. We might have bombs and dentist appointment and bad credit ratings, but we also have false eyelashes, kittens and frozen mangoes! (Yes and Yes).

When will having a vagina not constitute an individual genre of music? Is music created by women inherently laden with femininity? (Electronic Beats)

“I think this trend in the mainstream about noticing that women are making electronic music is another way of pointing out that when women make any kind of music, it’s going to be viewed differently. I feel a lot of conflicting ways because part of me is like – yes, women should be praised for battling the additional restrictions put on them by sexism when they make music, but part of me is like, get over it, we don’t use our genitals to play our synthesizers. In my experience women are often thought of as sidekicks or accessories in the music world, and electronic music is often treated as “less-than” rock, or easier than playing string instruments so being a woman with a keyboard is like one of the most easily dismissed ways of making sound. It’s another fight women didn’t ask for. I wonder if people are surprised that women make electronic music because people assume it’s more complicated than acoustic music? Like they’re impressed women have the capabilities to understand synthesis?”

The next time someone accuses you of having PMS, tell them you’re more evolved. (Jessica Mullen)

Twilight and the glorification of getting deflowered. The Mormon Message that the Twilight series sends to young girls has been

Source: Filmsteak.com

done to death and well into the afterlife, but I feel the need to post this because I find the ‘Bella as submissive nitwit’ argument really interesting. Is she weak because she gives up college, mortality, family and friends for a guy? Weren’t girls doing this way before Twilight burst on the scene and invaded the bookstores? I find the character of Bella problematic, but do we actually have evidence that her inherent flaws are damaging to a whole generation of girls? (Jane XO)

There’s a new book on the market which claims there are several instances of same-sex love in the Bible. Read this (biased) review of the book’s argument here. (Cherry Grrrl)

I could have given up a whole week’s worth of torrents to attend the Emerging Women of Comedy convention! The panel of up-and-coming funneh ladies features the women otherwise known as Garfunkel and Oates (!!!) amongst others. Read Brittani’s run down of their discussions about niche audiences, lesbian jokes and being the token female writer in the room. (Autostraddle)

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Is Zooey Deschanel too girly? This article extends upon the New York Magazine’s interview with the indie-darling we all either love or hate. Conventionally beautiful with a penchant for cupcakes and kittens, is Deschanel the paragon of anti-feminism? (Huffpo)

Source: Movies Pad

What I find baffling about the controversy surrounding Deschanel’s trademark adorableness is that she doesn’t fall neatly into a feminine pigeonhole. Yes, she is thin, white, conventionally beautiful, and bubbly, and she has an apparently authentic enthusiasm for cupcakes and baby animals. But she has played characters who curse

indiscriminately (“The Good Girl”), defy their parents (“Almost Famous”), and reject the men who love them (“500 Days of Summer”) — not exactly ladylike behaviors — and her laugh (which Yuan describes rapturously as “as the joyous union of a bray, a bark, and a honk”) is decidedly unfeminine. Deschanel, as far as I can tell from her films and Yuan’s profile is, like all of us, complicated: a mix of soft and hard, girly and nerdy, silly and serious.

Julie Klausner writes about cutesy behaviour in her ode to age-appropriateness. (Julie Klausner)

Working women are selfish and should go back to making babies, according to a doctor in Perth. As a child whose parents were always a great deal older than my friends, I understand to a degree what Doctor Walters is saying. It’s hard when your parents are more conservative, less energetic and on a more superficial level, less up to date with popular culture. However, I’m also really proud of the fact that my parents dedicated their younger lives to being their best selves. Both my parents left home before 21 and travelled the world, seeing and doing amazing things, enriching their lives far more than they could have if they’d decided to shack up as soon as the first marriage proposal rolled in. It wasn’t until their late 30s that they settled down and had children. Sounds pretty sweet to me! (Sydney Morning Herald)

Rachel Hills defends writing for women’s magazines. (Musings of an Inappropriate Woman)

I chose it because I think there is a certain magic to combining political ideas with candy coating. There are a lot of people who know their feminist theory, and there are a lot of people who can adapt their writing voice to sound like a Cosmo article. There aren’t as many, I dare say, who can do both. I chose it because writing for women’s lifestyle magazines means writing articles that are ”for” women rather than just “about” them. As I said at the beginning of this post, I chose it because I wanted to write about women’s social issues, and women’s lifestyle magazines are a logical place to do that.

What Girls REALLY need. This is by far one of the best articles I have actually read all year. Why? Because not only do they mention awesome cool must-haves like a power song to boogy too, it’s also a clarion call for more girl-love! Yeehaw! (Vice)

Australia sets the standard with the Positive Body Image Awards. (About Face)

Why fashun needs a flock of people staring at the pretty. (Final Fashion)

The Talks interviews Mila Kunis, and she has some really poignant things to say on learning from others mistakes, perfectionism

Source: I Know Hair

and losing yourself in Hollywood. (The Talks)

Is that a problem in Hollywood, the pursuit of perfection? So many girls at your age try exactly that: to be and to look perfect.

It is really sad, because it’s true. Everybody is starting to look the same. It is bizarre how everyone has the same facial features now. One person dyes her hair brown, everybody dyes her hair brown. I think people lose all sense of themselves. It’s unfortunate.

Is that something the entertainment and fashion world caused itself?

I don’t know what caused it, I don’t know what came first: the chicken or the egg, but something caused it. I don’t know if it’s the covers of the magazines where you see the most perfect, most beautiful people. The sad thing is that it is all photoshopped. There is no such thing as perfection. What I consider beautiful, most likely you don’t. That doesn’t mean that I am right and you are wrong, it’s just a difference of opinion.

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Hello readers! I always hoped that Girls Are Made From Pepsi would continue to grow, and indeed it has. With now almost 500+ unique readers a week, I’m constantly throwing a little rave inside my brain every time I log on and see a new subscriber. I started this blog when I first moved to Perth to get into the flow of writing again, and I always intended to continue updating with the gusto of a baby administered Red Bull via IV drip. I got a lot to say, you know! I have major issues speaking in public, and I’m not the most articulate person when using the spoken word, so writing let’s me sound more coherent.

Unfortunately, university life and the sea of assignments I get EACH AND EVERY DAY is preventing me from dancing on my keyboard as often as I’d like to. I’m also working 3 jobs at the moment – 3 days a week I’m a smooth talking sun glass guru, I also freelance for Everguide.com.au and You and Me Psychology, and I’m currently working on another project to be revealed early September (so excited!). So whilst I will still be updating every week, I might not be able to find a Lady of the Week each and every week, and Sunday Hustle might be a teensy bit smaller.

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But anyhoot, today I want to talk about Sasha Fierce. In a previous Sunday Hustle I included a post featured on Jezebel that talked about Beyonce. Queen of Ferociousness and all things Bootylicious, Beyonce is one of the highest paid women in her industry. But that’s not why she was featured on one of the web’s leading feminist blogs. But hold up for a sec there, cowgirl! Why is it that the words ‘Beyonce’ and ‘prominent’ and ‘feminist’ even coexist in the same sentence, except to ask why they are in the same sentence? Beyonce, one of the music industry’s most popular artists, is currently a source of feminist tension.

As a pop singer who wears revealing outfits, dances provocatively on stage, and whose face graces many a magazine cover, Bey-Bey is often-times cast as an equality villainess. There are those who feel her lighter, straighter locks are a knife in the back of anti-racism, a political movement which often goes hand-in-hand with feminism (see Crunk Feminist Collective if you’re interested). And what about her marriage to Jay-Z? Notorious for his uh, questionable lyrics, he’s not exactly the poster boy for equality between the sexes. Case in point:

I pimp hard on a trick, look, Fuck if your leg broke bitch. Hope up on your good foot. -Black Girl Pain

If you’re having girl problems, I feel bad for you son. 99 Problems but a bitch ‘aint one. -99 Problems

Most recently though, Beyonce’s interview with Harper’s Bazaar has seen her crowned public enemy number one in the eyes of many women who identify as feminists. Her crimes?

  • She’s friends with Gwyneth Paltrow, the unintentional poster girl for white-girl privilege.
  • She sings about her bottom.
  • She sings about hetero sex
  • And rings! And fingers! And putting aforementioned rings on said fingers!
  • She generalises gender and reinforces stereotypes, e.g: If I were a boy/I would turn off my phone/Tell everyone its broken So they think that I was sleeping alone/I’d put myself first/And make the rules as I go/Cause I know that she’d be faithful/Waiting for me to come home. – If I Were A Boy

The nerve, right?

But I degress. As a woman who identifies as a feminist, I acknowledge that there are many, many different types of feminism. There’s 1st wave feminism, exemplified by the women’s suffrage (right to vote), 2nd wave feminism, which describes activity in the 60s and 70s, 3rd wave feminism which includes the 80s till the present, lipstick feminism (think Helen Gurley-Brown and sexual equality), and post-feminism (which assumes there is no longer a need for feminism, but a generalised equal-rights movement).

I see Beyonce negotiating between the last two.

So whilst she sings about gender inequality, I don’t see her lyrics as particularly counteractive towards feminist activity. When I hear If I Were A Boy, I don’t hear ‘Gosh darnit! I wish I were a dude so I could sit at home on my Xbox because being a girl is all forms of suckery etc etc ad nauseum!’. I don’t hear a woman perpetuating and promoting gender roles from decades since past. Instead, I hear a woman singing about and acknowledging gender inequality when it comes to hetero courtship and normative relationship behaviour. Here’s my own little deconstruction of her lyrics (my interpretation is italicised for extra fun! Wee!)

Now put your hands up
Up in the club, we just broke up
I’m doing my own little thing (I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend and goshdarnit, I need a drink)
you Decided to dip but now you wanna trip
Cuz another brother noticed me (You are a jealous fiend, sir! You only want me because you can’t have me!)
I’m up on him, he up on me
dont pay him any attention (my word, this is quite fun and I’ve completely forgotten about my dingus of an ex-boyfriend!)
cuz I cried my tears, GAVE three good years
Ya can’t be mad at me (what I waste of my precious time. Good riddance!)

[Chorus]
Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it (If you had of respected me for the bootyliciousness I posses, you would have commit. You are not ready for this jelly, obviously!)

Tell me I’m taking the top 40 lyrics way too l seriously, but I also see a woman mocking the dating game and this idea that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. How many times do we have to read about guys and their allergies to returning text messages? I grind my teeth every time I hear a girl talking about her boyfriend’s inability to return phone calls. It’s incredibly generalist, and I really feel the cold shoulder is played by both sexes. I hate to ask, but what about the menz? It certainly seems to be a question Beyonce is asking herself.

“I don’t really feel that it’s necessary to define it. It’s just something that’s kind of natural for me, and I feel like… you know… it’s, like, what I live for.
I need to find a catchy new word for feminism, right? Like Bootylicious.”

Is Beyonce discrediting and refusing to value the rights that 1st feminists fought for by choosing not to identify as a feminist? Not so, IMHO! More and more women these days aren’t seeing the worth in identifying as being part of a group, but rather prefer to be a seen as individuals. Where is the harm in that? Each and every person’s experience of inequality is drastically different from the person next to them. So whilst I identify strongly with the term feminist, I won’t begrudge a woman who sees herself more along the lines as an “equalist“.

What about you? Can you think of another word for feminism? Do you think Beyonce is tainting feminist activity?

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Hey you. Yeah, you. We haven’t spoken in a while. It’s partly my own fault. To be honest, I’ve been a little apprehensive about having this conversation with you. You see, there’s this thing you do, like, all the time, which has really been bugging me, nay, pissing me right off the Ferris wheel. I know that I should have piped up sooner instead of seething in my own contempt for your offenses. So here it is. Please, take a seat.

It’s about the language you use. Frankly, it’s quite inappropriate. It’s sexist and it offends a lot of people. I know you wanna appear hip with your lingo and all that because you want to sound dope like P-Diddy or whatever. But when you make believe that you have a penis and talk about all your bitches and hoes, it kind of makes me question our friendship.

For example, the other day you told me to quit being a vagina when I didn’t want to play chicken on the freeway. And it made me think ‘Huh. Why on earth would they say that? Vaginas are super strong human muscles that push out humans, and right now my fear of incoming traffic doesn’t seem to be on par with that level of awesomeness’.

I get what you meant though. You meant I was a scaredy-cat, that I was weak and feeble. Unfortunately, you’re not alone in this use of gender-specific language. If you were to say, “Gee, Camilla, you’ve got balls to stand up to me for implying that courage is inherently a masculine trait!” I’d understand that you were saying I had guts. Well, thank you. It’s true, it’s not easy to stand up for what you believe in when you’re in the minority. But I’d prefer it if you didn’t suggest I’d spontaneously grown a sack.

I know that it’s not entirely you’re fault, and you’re probably not even making a conscious decision to use these sexist terms. Plenty of people do the same without deliberately pushing a patriarchal agenda, not to mention the many other languages of which grammatical gender is a large part. Crazy! But is it really necessary to call someone a ‘boob’ when they’ve made a bit of an oopsy-daisy? Or call someone a c*** when they’ve got their best jerk face on?

I know that sometimes, you want to appear like one of the boys – sexually liberated, polyamarous and nonchalant and when it comes to relationships. But when you’re talking about the hoes on your dick or telling someone to suck it, you’re really just further aggravating these views of women, which I might point out, that you so detest that you’ve even tried in vain to disassociate yourself from any hint of femininity by talking like a dude (and a misogynistic one at that! Boo!)

Wanna be more awesome? Ditch the lingo! Add some spice to your syntax. Maybe say “That girl’s got chutzpah!” or “That really took a lot of swagger to wear those ass-lass chaps, buddy!”

Now, go to your room and think hard about what I’ve told you.

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