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What say you of Miranda Kerr and the Victoria’s Secret productions?Amy Odell and Jada Yuan spent 178 minutes with her and found the experience less than mentally stimulating. (NY Magazine)

In response to the above article, Australian journalist Alyx Gorman delves a little further and goes  beyond several of Kerr’s hilarious quotes to discover that Kerr is much, much more than a Victoria’s Secret production, but a product (albeit one dressed up a pretty New Age Girl Power package). (The Vine)

Kerr’s problem – the reason why much of the industry has come to quietly despise her – is that she builds her brand around these lofty ideals of positivity and self esteem, and then draws them all back in to the physical, a realm where she clearly has enormous advantage. It’s easy to treasure your body when the simple act of being you, of eating, exercising properly and marrying a movie star can net you millions of dollars and an unbelievably enviable lifestyle, but the day-to-day reality for others (and even, no doubt, for Kerr herself), is far more complex.

What exactly is a strong female character? Do we need to ‘dudeify’ ourselves to get noticed in Hollywood? (Canonball)

I’ve never really been a huge fan of Tim Allen, but this review of an episode featuring lesbian couples makes me really want to watch it. The cheers for (somewhat) accurate representation! (After Ellen)

I really, really wish this lesbian storyline made it into Love, Actually. (After Ellen)

Is the girl-crush harmful? What happens to your self-esteem when you intensely admire someone so much, that you actually want to be them? Personally, I think girl-crushes are completely healthy. However, it’s not the admiration for a girl that is harmful, but this perception that you to emulate someone else because your sense of self is not enough. (Maisonneuve)

I suspect the girl-crush concept is so appealing because it doesn’t challenge anything. It embodies a girl-power, and-she’s-pretty-too, apolitical take on feminism, one that is more style than substance. Instead of examining every public figure, female or otherwise, with a critical eye, the girl crush encourages us to pick out a handful of women, call them “girls” and slot them away in the realm of unassailable cool. Yes, talking about girl crushes can be fun. Everyone needs strong female role models. But I can’t help feeling that, by encouraging each other to obsess over girl crushes, we somehow reduce both the praisers and the praised. A girl crush has never hurt anybody. But has it helped them?

I love a grrrl who loves to riot, but just like not all women are down with the f-word, some female musicians also find the label a little too impersonal and limiting. (Pitchfork)

Totally off topic, but if anyone can find me Ladies and Gentlemen, the Fabulous Stains, please inbox me!

Have you guys been watching Unicorn Plan-It? It’s a mini-series produced by the girls at Autostraddle, and it’s hilarious. Unicorn Plan-It follows the trials and tribulations of an small event planning company which caters to the gay community. Of course, being a show about lesbians, everyone is up in everyone else’s business and the f-bomb is dropped like quite frequently, so maybe not for the prudish. I don’t want ladies clutching at their pearls, so be warned! They just wrapped up with the finale, but if you’re a total newb, check out the start of the series here. (Autostraddle)

I am so excited about the Muppets Movie! Growing up, Miss Piggy was a role model. Although she was voiced by a man with a hand up her ass, Miss Piggy’s ferocity and unapologetic demeanour gave her pedestal worthy status in my 5-year-old eyes. She’s not afraid to coo over a girly cacophony of trinkets, but can turn into a force to be reckoned with lest you get in her way. And because I like to ask the important questions in life, was Kermit really deserving of her? (Jezebel)

Remember how content Kermit was, just strumming his banjo on a tree trunk in the swamp? That’s the guy I’ve chased my whole life, killing myself trying to show him how fabulous I am. Remember how, on The Muppet Show, Kermit used to politely laugh at Miss Piggy’s pleas for some kissy-kissy, or fend off her jealousy after he flirted right in front of her? With Madeline friggin’ Kahn? Kermit never appreciated what he had in Piggy, because she was just one great thing about his awesome life. He had the attitude women’s magazines try to sell to its audience: that significant others are only the frosting on the cake of life. But everybody knows that cake without frosting is just a muffin.

Reality TV is skewing our perception of reality, and the biggest implications are for females especially. (Autostraddle)

 

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Linkage love for the well-informed lady. Enjoy!

Sweet jubilation! Another clarion call for more girl love! (Dream, Delight, Inspire)

None of this plz.

Rabbit White challenges the definition of sex. What constituted doing it? What about when you’re flying solo? Or a lesbian? Or a gay man? (The Frisky)

I started to define sex more broadly. I think that each individual defines what sex is for them. For me, sex can be any physical, sensual intimacy that builds to a sexual release, not just penetration.The method of categorization that I started using was that if it felt like sex, then it was sex. It’s kind of like trying to define porn, you just know it when you see it.

My girlfriend asked me, “Isn’t it great that girls can do this?” as we sprawled on her bed, touching and rolling around.

I laughed.

But really I thought, “Yeah, it is great. Why can’t I have sex like this with men as well?”

Sarah Von says the world doesn’t suck. We might have bombs and dentist appointment and bad credit ratings, but we also have false eyelashes, kittens and frozen mangoes! (Yes and Yes).

When will having a vagina not constitute an individual genre of music? Is music created by women inherently laden with femininity? (Electronic Beats)

“I think this trend in the mainstream about noticing that women are making electronic music is another way of pointing out that when women make any kind of music, it’s going to be viewed differently. I feel a lot of conflicting ways because part of me is like – yes, women should be praised for battling the additional restrictions put on them by sexism when they make music, but part of me is like, get over it, we don’t use our genitals to play our synthesizers. In my experience women are often thought of as sidekicks or accessories in the music world, and electronic music is often treated as “less-than” rock, or easier than playing string instruments so being a woman with a keyboard is like one of the most easily dismissed ways of making sound. It’s another fight women didn’t ask for. I wonder if people are surprised that women make electronic music because people assume it’s more complicated than acoustic music? Like they’re impressed women have the capabilities to understand synthesis?”

The next time someone accuses you of having PMS, tell them you’re more evolved. (Jessica Mullen)

Twilight and the glorification of getting deflowered. The Mormon Message that the Twilight series sends to young girls has been

Source: Filmsteak.com

done to death and well into the afterlife, but I feel the need to post this because I find the ‘Bella as submissive nitwit’ argument really interesting. Is she weak because she gives up college, mortality, family and friends for a guy? Weren’t girls doing this way before Twilight burst on the scene and invaded the bookstores? I find the character of Bella problematic, but do we actually have evidence that her inherent flaws are damaging to a whole generation of girls? (Jane XO)

There’s a new book on the market which claims there are several instances of same-sex love in the Bible. Read this (biased) review of the book’s argument here. (Cherry Grrrl)

I could have given up a whole week’s worth of torrents to attend the Emerging Women of Comedy convention! The panel of up-and-coming funneh ladies features the women otherwise known as Garfunkel and Oates (!!!) amongst others. Read Brittani’s run down of their discussions about niche audiences, lesbian jokes and being the token female writer in the room. (Autostraddle)

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“Being single entitles you to not ask someone’s opinion before you do something to mess up your own room, your credit report or even your life.”
- Sayali Patil

“I’m single because I was born that way.”
-Mae West

“When you’re single, your pockets will jingle.”
- Anonymous

I have a confession to make. I’ve been single for almost 11 months.  Not only have I been single for 11 months, my romantic rendevous are unabashed solo acts. Contrary to the popular notion of how a young, fabulous and sexually fluid college student should behave (thank you, Aileen Chaiken!), you probably won’t find me in the toilets at Connections demonstrating ample finger dexterity. I’m highly unlikely to let my hands do the talking just because a tattooed dream in lady loving heaven has force fed me daquiries all night. Being single is a choice I’ve made, and I’m kind of reluctant to loosen my clutches on my claim to the life of a swinging bachelorette. Why?

I’m picky. I don’t have a list per se, but I’ve made a note of whom I wouldn’t want to waste a minute of my time directing to a tampon dispenser. Whereas most members of the lonely hearts club compile a grocery list of sorts of their ideal lover, I compile a DO NOT WANT list (mentally, I don’t physically sit around with my feather quill stuffed up my nose hoping to pick my brain for compatible characteristics that my future wife/husband should have). What does your list look like? Do you compile one at all?

I’m judgmental. I believe that a person’s taste says a lot about their personality. If you can’t respect my heaving library or share a similar admiration for the joys of FASHUN, I can no longer remain objective. They say opposites attract, and perhaps they do. I believe that when two totally different personality types collide in this universe, novelty usually overpowers foresight and common sense. Generally, the honeymoon period is spent observing the other species with a wild fascination and awe. Shortly after, the urge to convert follows, as partners try to fit their square pegs in round holes. Eventually, they realise that they’ll never be able to agree on a playlist for their car, or their taste in furniture is too dissimilar and they throw their hands up in the air and wish for the past two years of their life back whilst purging stray Sugar Ray albums from their iTunes. Do opposites really attract?

I get bored easily. If a person’s personality resembles a rubix cube of puzzles to solve and tricks to remember, most people will probably tire, stretch their fingers and do their best banshee impersonation. If you have to work to solve a jigsaw puzzle of a person, you better be getting paid, working girl. Hard to get? Or hard to tolerate?

Perhaps I’m being a little too close-minded when it comes to entering the shark pool, but time is like the purest of gold. I don’t like wasting it, and especially not with people I deem unworthy of my attention. It’s the last tub of your favourite ice cream out the back at Coles. You want to savour it, swirl it around your mouth before making your tummy sing a happy tune. Why waste your time? In my honest opinion, being single blows coupledom out of the water with a tsunami of benefits.

  • You always get to choose where you go on a date. Imagine a night free of quarreling, 100% enjoyment and synchronicity. I like taking myself on solo dates to the art gallery. I get to choose where I take me, myself and I, and there is no one else’s interests to consider. Simply 100% pure indulgement. It also makes the date a whole lot cheaper! Added bonus: no one thinks you’re a scrooge for bringing a lunch from home.
  • You can fart in bed and no one will care.
  • There won’t be anyone to criticise your garlic breathe. Eat the dang pizza woman!
  • Appearances are negligible. Presentation of the (best) self is 99% of the time based upon performances. In an ideal world, people would be able to see past your acne, your regrowth and jolly love handles. Unfortunately, personality is seen to be an inherent part of a person’s outward projection. Who would YOU rather associate with? A perfectly groomed fashionista? Or an unkempt and slightly overweight person? It’s called the Halo Effect, which basically means that people who are perceived to be attractive have a definite advantage over common folk when it comes to getting through life successfully. Fortunately, when I spend time alone, I have no one else to judge me. I know that sometimes I’m winning at life, and I don’t need to look a million dollars to convince the girl in the mirror.
  • Having a shit-tastic day? That’s okay! So is your other half (i.e: you!). Take some time to chill out with your misery. Hold it’s hand, let it know it’s okay to feel like your soul’s been chucked in a blender on pulse.

Do yourself a favour. Say nay to serial monogomy. Be your own number one fan.

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Lady of the Week is back! Last week was all sorts of crazy, so regrettably I couldn’t share my latest internet soul sistah with you all. So here she is – meet Natasia Langfelder, aka, Hot Femme in NYC. An entertainment writer from the city that never sleeps, Natasia’s blog is full to the brim with anecdotes about the life of a yummy young lady living the rainbow life in New York City. Need advice on dating? On breaking up? On coming out to your religious and conservative parents? Or maybe you just want some LOLs and want to understand the dating scene of the LGB crowd. Natasia delivers the funneh with her signature sparkling wit. She was delighted to hop on the good ship and answer a few of my questions. Enjoy! And be sure to check out her work.

Who are you? And what is your business here?!
Hi, I’m Natasia and my business is the funny. Also I go down on other chicks, so we have that in common.  Call me!

I’ve been the features editor at a few online LGBT websites and I was focused on celebrity news that would be of interest to the LGBT community. What I learned from that is that there’s not a ton of interest in what Angelina and Brad are doing. Generally, gays want to know about other gays and have fun instead of gossiping about celebrities. So I took my crazy to WordPress.

I’m trying to create a space that will entertain gay girls while also giving some hints about the nuances of queer dating, romance, fashion and the social scene in general. I would really like to help people find, get and keep the girl of their dreams. Or at least get laid once in awhile. My blog is shaped by my personal experiences in the queer world (aka what I did last night) as well as by feedback from the delightful ladies who write to me for advice. So each post is here and queer even if we aren’t talking straight up vadge.

Describe what your blog is about for the hapless hetero or discerning bi-curious.
Straight people: We aren’t that different from you! We care about how we look, fitting in, how to ask out the hot woman sitting next to us and if you tickle us, we laugh. (Holla Shakespeare) My blog is about all the things that you care about, but with a queer slant. Like, if the world was reversed and there were more gay people than straight people and you all had to be the loser best friend instead of the star? That’s my blog.

Oh are you bi-curious? Call me. I can help.

What does being a femme mean to you?
To me, Femme is less about how you look on the outside and more about who you are on the inside. It means being compassionate, empathetic, staying true to yourself and showing respect for others, probably while wearing heels. A Femme should build up her partner, make her feel sexy, strong and special. There’s no love like femme love.

Do you think the Kinsey scale is relevant? Where do you think you fall?
I think the Kinsey scale is an easy way to pretend to quantify sexuality and that’s something people feel a deep need for. If we can break sexuality down and give it a number, it becomes something we can more easily process. So not too relevant. Love and sex are too messy for numbers.

But if we are playing this game, I’m probably a 5. Which means I’m mostly a huge muffdiver who fell onto a few guys. Everyone is so sexually fluid these days and I’m not! I feel left out and boring. BUT before I dated women, I had some really great boyfriends that I’m still very close with. I would never want to trivialize my relationships or my connections with them. But I’m 99.9% sure I would never, ever choose to be with a man again; which is great news for my wife.

What are the most annoying misconceptions about gay girls?
That we are all attracted to straight women. It drives me crazy. I’m more into chicks that like chicks. We’ve all had that moment when your straight acquaintance is drunk at the bar and wants you to tell her she’s the prettiest princess you ever had a shot with. “Yes, you are pretty. No I don’t think you are hotter than the dyke who works in the mail room at my office. Yes, women who look like men do turn me on and no, I won’t tell you why.”

Also, no we are not all ugmos who are just gay because we can’t get men. If we are conventionally pretty, we are not just waiting for the right guy. Oh and duh, no threesomes that involve a guy.

Whether for eyecandy or inspirational reasons, what women do you adore or admire?
I adore Margaret Atwood. Her writing is so beautiful it makes me cry in frustration because I want to be able to create that so badly. Angst, it’s a helluva feeling.

I also admire Katherine Moennig. Both for being sexy and making me think seriously about developing an eating disorder. I never feel very “Shane” but one day I would like to.

Do you have any advice for girls ready (or not so ready) to come out?
Life is too short to stay in the closet. Unless you rely on your parents for financial support and there is a chance they will kick you out of the house, just come out. When I came out, my best friend cried because I had kept it a secret from her. It hurt her feelings that I thought she wouldn’t understand. I have been continually surprised by how amazing my friends and family are. Give yours credit more credit than I did. Living an honest life will make you and your loved ones feel more at peace. Plus girl on girl is awesome, so go get it.

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For your reading pleasure!

Autostraddle dishes out some sage wisdom for shy young lesbians. The key to a girl’s heart may or may not be with donuts, but sitting like a hot toaster waiting to pop does not a hustler make.

If you don’t feel your heart beating in your fingertips, if your voice isn’t shaking, if you’re able to have coherent thoughts, then you don’t understand the importance of what you’re doing. This is a big deal. When you approach someone as more than friends, you’re making yourself defenseless in a way that, quite frankly, isn’t fair. Whenever you ask someone out, you’re knowingly giving them the chance to stomp on your heart on the off chance that they want to make out with your face as much as you want to make out with theirs.

Jump on in love-lorn battalions!! The water’s fine!

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Fancy some heavier reading? Here’s some food for thought from Oxford University Press. Author Christopher Reed is promoting his new book Homosexuality in Art: A History of Ideas. He talks about why homosexuality is more accepted in mainstream cinema and literature and not in the visual arts, and also how sexuality really isn’t all that personal when it’s such a large part of our culture. (OUP Blog)

My new favourite website Autostraddle (how did this fly under my radar for so long?!) is also talking about homosexuality and art. This article’s in relation to activism, and not just the gung-ho rah-rah kind of political demonstration. (Autostraddle)

Studies have shown that “knowing” gay fictional characters is similar to knowing a gay person when it comes to affecting attitudes toward LGBT people and issues. Artists with a wide audience, such as the people behind popular TV shows, movies and books, have a unique opportunity to reach people who would not otherwise seek out LGBT media and perspectives. A lot of these people would never watch explicitly-gay shows like Queer As Folk or The L Word — but as we make more and more inroads to otherwise-straight shows, like Pretty Little Liars or Glee, it becomes harder and harder for homophobes to avoid queer people on TV. And harder and harder for them to avoid empathizing with us.

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The Hairpin features an article on Canada’s long-termlove affair with our patron saint of bad-ass Alanis Morisette.  IT’S LIKE RAAAAAIIIIIIN ON YOUR WEDDING DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYY….. (The Hairpin)

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Don’t feel like reading the whole of American Cosmo? Lilith and Jezebel over at Evil Slutopia have summarised it for your convenience! (Evil Slutopia)

Rachel Rabbit White discusses the fashion question for feminists and queers. Do you ever wonder who you’re dressing for? Maybe for other girls in order to be accepted? Or maybe to attract male attention? Perhaps you feel the pangs of feminist guilt (thank YOU, Naomi Wolf!) when you do dress up? Or maybe you feel conflicted about what to wear when you’re attracting the same sex? We’ve all been there – whether you’re a feminist or a queer. Girl culture demands that we be our best selves physically, but like, not TOO pretty, because that’s just threatening. Feminism and queer culture asks that we subvert traditional gender stereotypes. Is your head exploding yet? How does one attain this level of unthreatening sexiness? And how does one look like they like girls, but not too much like a boy because obviously that’s counterproductive? Wear heels and you might encounter a ‘more feminist than thou’ attitude, or wear heels and people will assume you’re straight. Is their freedom in choosing what you want to wear? (Rabbit Write)

Time for sweet androgyny!

Maranda Elizabeth on the unclear boundaries of consent. Because, sometimes no means no, and sometimes, yes means no also. Confusing? Communication is so much more than affirmative answers. What about body language? Tone of voice? (Maranda Elizabeth)

In the workshop I wrote about in my last entry, when we broke into smaller groups and discussed our wants and needs, practicing how to ask for them, and how to say/accept no as an answer, one of the folks in our group said that they needed clear and direct communication, and for folks they’re involved with to make their boundaries known. It sounds simple, right? But myself and another person in the group both admitted that we have difficulty clarifying our boundaries for others, and that we were both dealing with our own issues surrounding assertiveness and communication, so we couldn’t promise that we could always be clear and direct.

The NY Times has a really great article on the problematic ‘strong female lead’. Whilst the title wreaks of anti-feminist sentiments (women cannot handle their own awesomeness! Shall we sew instead?) the article is definitely worth your Sunday reading. Just to clarify, in this context ‘strong female lead’ does not mean a well written and developed character. Thank you NY Times for this handy definition: “alpha professionals whose laserlike focus on career advancement has turned them into grim, celibate automatons; robotic, lone-wolf, ascetic action heroines whose monomaniacal devotion to their crime-fighting makes them lean and cranky and very impatient; murderous 20-something comic-book salesgirls who dream of one day sidekicking for a superhero; avenging brides; poker-faced assassins; and gloomy ninjas with commitment issues.” This kind of woman, the NY Times argues, develops an inferiority complex.

Of course, I get the point of characters like these. They do serve as a kind of gateway drug to slightly more realistic — or at least representational — representations of women. On the other hand, they also reinforce the unspoken idea that in order for a female character to be worth identifying with, she should really try to rein in the gross girly stuff. This implies that unless a female character is “strong,” she is not interesting or worth identifying with.

This reminds me of a conversation I had with Mia Freedman once (I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO SAY THAT) where she mentioned how important it was for women to share their bad lists. To be declare their strengths certainly, but also to own up to their weaknesses as a form of empowerment. Is strength always a virtue? (NY Times)

On a similar note, I am finally off to go see Harry Potter – finally! Team Hermione!

Happy Sunday!

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Who remembers friendship bracelets? I was the friendship bracelet queen back in primary school, frequently plaiting away at multi-coloured yarns and lovingly securing them around the wrists of my girlfriends. We were ‘blood sisters’, child warrior body guards against armies of scary boys, and even formed our own juvenile version of a secret society. We marked each other’s bodies in a way that would probably worry most parents, and shared everything.  A good gal pal will take the edge off a rough day, whinge with you about your boss, help sabotage mortal enemies and doesn’t care what you look like when you wake up.  The relationships between girls is something of an enigma; we have an unmistakeably special bond that we search for in potential partners, yet we don’t label our friendships as a form of romantic love.

Building and maintaining supportive relationships is something that’s hardwired into the female brain. Studies show that women thrive emotionally and physically from these relationships. They help release stress, provide a shoulder to cry on, and provide inspiration for multi-million dollar franchises.

A few weeks ago, Rachel Rabbit White made a post about the BFF. She even used one of my little anecdotes about my relationship with a certain BFF who shall forever remain unnamed. Can you guess which one is my story?

The basic gist of the post is that everyone’s a little bi – whether it’s a phase you go through, a transitional period or stepping stone to full-blown lesbian, or the start of a sexually fluid identity. Or perhaps you choose to not abide by any label, seeing your attractions as far more personal as opposed to deeply sexual.

Frankie likes people.

This is hardly a new concept. Freud called it ‘polymorphous perversity’. Poly what now? To illustrate this point, University College, London did a study on the brain activities of various hetero and homosexual couples. Participants were shown images of their significant others, and photos of their same sex friends. When looking at the fMRI scans, guess what they found? That’s right – same neurological responses. Which means, romantic love, regardless of a person’s sex, and friendship love have very similar chemical reactions in the brain.

However, it appears that women displayed more of this brain activity than men. So is female sexuality much more fluid than mens’? You can bet your rainbow party pants it is, according to a study by Lisa Diamond. In her book Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire, Diamond studied 100 women over a decade and found a trend amongst females to have a far more sexually diverse orientation.

Whether sexual or not, sometimes close female bonding is treated sexually. Sometimes it’s implicit, sometimes it almost smacks you in the face with a strap-on. Here are some subtle and not so subtle examples of the complex BFF relationship.

Emily and Spencer from Pretty Little Liars

Emily tries to seduce Spencer with her Cher impersonation.

The BFF relationship is central to the plot of Pretty Little Liars. One of the main characters, Emily, has a hidden infatuation for Alison (who is murdered in the first episode. The whole show revolves around her untimely death). In flash-backs we see Alison tease Emily with her coquettish double entendres, secretly making out with her, pushing her away and pulling her back in with teenage nonchalance, buying her gifts, basically playing favourites with extra tongue involved. Whilst I think Alison just knew she was smokin’ hot jail-bait and was probably just using Emily as an experiment, I get major vibes from Spencer. And the girls where PURPLE friendship bracelets. Need I say more?

Tracy and Evie from Thirteen

This early 2000s independent drama chronicled the kind of relationship many young teenage girls have – the friend who is a bad influence. Evie one of those enigmatic girls you meet who possess some sort of hypnotic power over all she comes into contact with. But Evie is bbbbad to the bone, introducing the faunish Tracy to the hard and fast world of juvenile deilinquincy. Think acid trips, older boys, shop lifting and bullying. Evie is in fact so bewitching, the completely moon-struck Tracy ends up locking lips with her and almost having a jail-bait three-way tryst with her neighbour. The thing is, Tracy doesn’t really care about the money she steals, the boys she kisses or the clothes she wears. She’s eagerly searches for signs of approval whilst mirroring Evie. Although the girls are only thirteen and I don’t want to be responsible for objectifying minors, there’s some fairly subtle and not so subtle sexual undertones that underscore their relationship, blurring the line between friendship love and romantic love. Not so black and white anymore, is it?

Regina George and the Plastics

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Queen Bee Regina’s character is in the same vein as Evie from Thirteen. With enough charisma to charm the panties off any girl who so merely as breathes the same oxygen as her, Regina has an undeniable influence over all of her peers. Even Cady confesses that although she secretly loathes Regina, she still yearns for her acceptance. There’s something about this blonde paragon that causes the world to fawn at her feet.  She even manages to get her obedient cohorts to dress up as elves and perform a sassy Christmas repertoire. I mean, hello? Is this not sexual finesse? Regina can get a girl (and a boy) to do anything.

Brittany and Santana from Glee

Fan girls all over the Glee-verse spammed the shit out of Tumblr when their OTP Brittana became a canon pairing.  From back-up dancers, to pom-pom wielding besties, to cuddle buddies, and now to scissor sisters, they illustrate perfectly the BFF paradigm, wherein friendship love and romantic love intertwine. Brittany and Santana definitely built up one giant gay crescendo with their pink-linking performances. It’s obvious that the girls love each other despite their respective snarkyness and endless blonde moments, but they’re hesitant to put a label on their relationship. They see other boys, they sleep with other boys, but as sure as these teens will break out into a randomly choreographed song and dance routine about homework, so too do Brittana ultimately end up together.

So, what do you think? Does the media sexualise the BFF relationship, or just merely mirror back these already existing undertones? Is it a case of the chicken or the egg?
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Purple Power delivers an almighty blow to inequality as NY State legalises gay marriage!  Yesterday was a day to mark history (and herstory!). However, the state law is buried under a messy heap of federal legislation, which might mean that all the young and hot things in love out there might not be getting a break on their taxes.

I Am Not My Uterus – This is the blog post that had the Twitter kids slinging mud pies at each other all week. Clem Bastow’s article in defense of deliberately barren women polarised the blogosphere into two groups – those already on a vitally important errand to Babyco, and those who’d rather toss the baby out with the bath water (kidding! Kind of). Women who’ve remained childless rallied in defense of Clem (myself included), whilst mothers and fathers alike saw it as an attack on their choices, an immoral decision, or clearly in breach of what mother nature intended.

Miss Bastow, you would be best to simply stay silent rather than use your words to spread your own negativity, weirdness and confusion. Too many young women (and men) have been encouraged to supress their natural inclinations by the likes of you to their regret latter.

The reality of nature can not be altered by newspapers articles: reliable female fertillity is only between the ages of about 18-35 and once the opportunity is gone, it is gone forever. Young men and women waste enough time building a carear without you demoralising them.

Coming from a family of women who have all decided to marry and have children late (or sometimes, not at all), any plans for me personally getting up the duff are yet to be conceived. However, but the government focuses on working families, and even Barbie gets pregnant, I can’t help but feel that it’s expected of me. However, doesn’t everyone feel as though something is expected of them? Women with children feel pressured to raise perfect children and somehow climb the corporate ladder simultaneously, whilst women without children feel like they’re being vilified for putting themselves first. Whether you’re a mother or not, women are defined by their (lack of) children.
Unravelling Blake Lively – Is it a bubbly facade? What is this amazonian beauty like when the camera isn’t rolling? Just who is this blonde icon with enough charm to get the Queen of England naked? Can she stand on her own two feet or does she need to lean on the likes of Leo and teeter on her Loubotins to get ahead? Blake Lively represents a sort of obsession with celebrity. She’s seemingly perfect – a bangin’ body fit for a swimsuit campaign, she’s tight with the emperor and empress of fashion themselves, Karl Lagerfield and Anna Wintour, and also has claim to the lead role in the hottest teen drama since we were welcomed to the OC, bitch. And she has really, really pretty hair. But is she as credible as she seems? Can she act? Can she do the splits? How much wood would a Blake Lively chuck if a Blake lively could chuck wood?

Blake has effectively created a brand for herself. She’s a hustler, climbing up that A-List ladder towards shooting-stardom. She’s working it because she realises that it’s a long way to the top if you want to rock and roll, and you can’t get by without a little help from your Hollywood friends. And if her tabloid covers are anything to go by, it appears to be working. You know you love her.

Ms. Magazine interviews everyone’s favourite huggable green gargantuan, Feminist Hulk. Hulk talks about endless waves of loving smash, his effective abuse of the caps-lock, and the never ending fight to destroy bull-shit.
The sexually abusive tradie as a stereotype – Bitch magazine discusses the prescriptive stereotype of the objectifying construction worker. Is it a self-fulfilling prophecy? Is it a case of having the name so adopting the game?

It’s probably for this reason that working class men are complained about so frequently at talks on street harassment, depicted alongside news articles and blog posts about the issue, and featured in anti-street harassment videos – all of which reify the idea that working class men are harassers. This classist framework really bothers me. Maybe it’s because I grew up working class and my step-father is a truck driver — a profession that’s often perceived as being full of men who demonstrate lewd behavior (a stereotype that contributes to the erasure of the growing number (5%) of women in the industry, but I digress) — that I am resistant to such overarching characterizations. My familiarity with men in these fields makes me sympathetic to arguments of perception vs. intention. Social behaviors differ across class identification, and what may be deemed “crass” or “trashy” or “inappropriate” according to middle or upper class values might be entirely acceptable in my family’s neck of the woods. So, whose standards should get top billing?

Photo: AP/Tina Fineberg via Bitch Media

Another Bridesmaids review. I couldn’t not mention Kristin’s Wigg’s debut film. Most reviews are so quick to confirm that Bridesmaids is so cool! Because it’s like the Hangover! But for chicks! It has fart jokes AND Rose Bryne! Winning! This one’s for those who aren’t stuck in the body of a teenage boy and are a little apprehensive about seeing the female cinematic incarnation of a Judd Appatow film.

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Style Bloggers and the Form/Function debate (and no, I’m not being ironic) – Are they more than just a pretty face? Are style blogs narcissistic mediums for cashed up clothes horses? Are bloggers lives a precious commodity? Could they die in a freak gasoline accident?  Fashion blogs are another form of fashion escapism, except much more affordable, accessible and personable. They blur the line between consumer culture and personal gratification with their diary-like form. We want to know the chick in the knitted jumper (isn’t even Russh employing this personability into their magazine shoots now?), but we also love honest fashion advice. We imagine that the blogger is just like us, although it might not always be the case (many already have profiles within the fashion industry or connections of the monetary or human variety). “Fashion bloggers,” argues author Lauren Burvill, “are undeniably successful. But at what price to the industry?” I don’t think they’re costing the industry – they’re just a new guarde of stylists.

Photo: Gary Pepper Vintage

BFFs are like a good wine – they get better with age.

“Humans are hard-wired to attach in a non-romantic way. There are evolutionary advantages for women to bond: to take care of each other, to provide a community and share responsibilities that increase the likelihood of survival,” Saltz says. “But friendships also fend off loneliness and depression.” – Gail Saltz, clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center.

S.E Smith from This ‘Aint Livin’ talks about sexism and the female journalist. It’s a must read for any investigative lass.

For women in journalism, the undercurrent of sexism is always there and they’re often told to ignore it. Just focus on the story. Or manipulate it to your advantage (because women, you know, they are always about the feminine wiles and exploiting situations whenever possible). Definitely don’t complain, because if you do, you might get taken off the story and reassigned to the gardening desk. If you’re bothered that stories about women end up in the ‘life and style’ section you would do well to keep it to yourself, because no one wants to hear about it. The sexism is just an occupational hazard, you see, it is part of the job.

Katie Holmes uses her almighty Kegel muscles to squeeze the scoop out of her interviewees in Thank You For Smoking.

Nubby Twiglet has compiled a list of the best eye candy of the glossy variety. LOOK AT THE PURRDDYY.

Girl With a Satchel gives Cleo a high five for 10-page happiness special, but brandishes her digital wooden spoon for contradicting their soft-feminism with cover girl Beyonce’s bandaged body suit.

My new favourite website Autostraddle does the most hilariously accurate recap of the latest gay-centric episode of Pretty Little Liars. PLL is cat-nip for sapphic sisters – this show is FUCKING LADEN with lesbian undertones.

Spencer, you're looking very Shane today.

And to finish off your week with a ball-bashing to wet weather blues, here’s some wise words from all time bodacious babe Marilyn Monroe over at Yes and Yes.

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