Natasia over at Hot Femme writes about fine tuning your gaydar and the gay-girl stereotype. So, say you’re out at a bar. You spot a pretty girl. Is she gay? Is she straight?

Is THIS what a femme looks like?

How on earth can you tell? Sometimes, you can’t rely upon your gaydar, whatever this psychic ability may be (does it even exist?!)

For those of you who don’t know, femme invisibility is the term used to describe queer women who feel unrecognized by both the gay & straight communities. I frequently blame femme invisibility on the fact that straight people don’t think about gay, it’s not something that’s ‘top of consciousness’ for them. So of course they will ask me if I have a boyfriend, even if I’ve mentioned my partner multiple times. They don’t think in “queer.”

Touche, mon ami! Touche! I feel my very own post about this coming on… (Hot Femme Writing in NYC)

Are sexy female game characters doing more harm than good on the gender-equality front? (Austintotamu)

Did you know that Geena Davis is awesome? The Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media is doing some fairly cool and progressive stuff. Developed in response to an inherent gender bias in the media, Davis’ institute is working on an international scale. One of their goals is to champion the Disney Princess myth (my personal pet peeve! We need more scatter-brain imperfect characters like Alice in Wonderland!)

The Crunk Feminist Collective (god I love the word ‘crunk’!) compiled this post for all the ladies heading back to school this ‘fall’ in the US. But I find it’s still quite pertinent for those of us in the Southern Hemisphere who are being bowled over by a cacophony of university work.  My own personal tips for mid-semester stress? Silence your inner mean girl with a big dosing of self-love, bubble bath style. Also,  please, please, please don’t think a drunken night will cure a sense of impending doom. It’s really, really not worth the hang over! (Crunk Feminist Collective)

Uh-oh. Yoplait is demonising food again. Except their own. Duh.

Classifying some foods as “good” and vilifying others as “bad” sets one up for failure in a most beautifully orchestrated series of events.  Certain foods may be healthier for you than others, but like most things, foods do not carry with them an innate characteristic of innocence or evil. In giving foods these kind of descriptions, they take on anthropomorphic identities that make it easy for one to associate with themselves. If cake = bad, and I consume cake, then I have consumed bad, ergo me = bad. Cake isn’t “bad.” It’s sweet. Sometimes sugary, sometimes tart. Sometimes in cup form. It isn’t “bad.”

To be honest, I don’t watch a lot of television these days, so when I hear about this incredibly WTF way of thinking about food, and the fact that it’s broadcast to the masses on television, it makes me wonder if maybe I’m slightly blind to the fact that women are still being forced this notion of beauty. I try and surround myself with similarly happy, positive and inspiring people to filter out these types of messages, and for the most part it works. But I’m interested in hearing if women are still feeling under intense pressure to be thin, or whether this might be a field we’re finally making some ground on. Hit me up with your thoughts! (Jezebel)

Rachel Hills is getting hitched! How did I not know this? I read her blog all the time. How? When? And more importantly, what is a feminist wedding? Do they even exist? (Musings of An Inappropriate Woman)

Thirsty? How about a delicious beverage? Pussy is the latest energy drink on the market, and apparently it’s more akin to super powers in a can. (Jezebel)

Photo: Jezebel

And for now, I’ll leave with you some images taken by my latest photographer obsession, Hedi Slimane. I featured Slimane’s images of a very much grown-up Frances Bean-Cobain in last week’s Sunday Hustle, and now I’m completely enraptured by his photographic work. Aren’t these pictures of Sky Ferreira beautiful?