T.S. Eliot says the cruelest month is April, but I believe it’s August. The last biting frost of winter pinches at your cheeks, the sun teases you with fleeting cameos in an otherwise torrential day, and a gentle wind tussles your hair, reminding you to not forget your scarf tomorrow. Winter is drawing to a close and making way for long afternoons jumping through sprinklers and eating mangoes with spoons. Here’s to the last weeks of extra long, hot showers, and a summer worth of Katy Perry sing-a-longs.
Here’s what I was reading this week. Get yourself bundled up, gumnut baby. It’s still cold outside!
Ever seen But I’m a Cheerleader? If you haven’t, it’s a film about a cheerleader who is completely oblivious to the fact that her love of other women (which isn’t entirely sexual) is actually a problem. Friends and family intervene and she’s sent off to straight camp to be reprogrammed, where she’s taught how to perform gender according to society’s standards. Cue a hilarious piss-take on social norms and Clea Duvall! But did you know that these ‘straight camps’ actually exist? Brittany from XOJane.com writes of her experience as an insider spy at an ex-gay conference. Fairly alarming stuff!
In another meeting hall, Focus on the Family’s resident psychologist Bill Maier explained how living a sin-free life is a constant, painful struggling against your own nature. One man nodded violently as he got up and confessed that despite having two children with a woman, he had to fight his urges daily. Finally, Dan stood up, unable to take it. “That guy just admitted he’d rather be gay,” he practically shouted as he dragged me toward the nearest red EXIT sign. “I need some fucking fresh air!”
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A school in Perth banned lesbian couples at the school ball. This story has received a lot of recognition in the press, and I’m so glad it’s made international headlines. Super happy to be over in Perth fighting the good fight!
Hayley O-Connor’s illustrations are sure to make you swoon. If you’re a fan of the same whimsical, soft and feminine work from Bec Winnel, Audrey Kawasaki and Courtney Brims, you’ll adore Hayley’s glittering and fantastical illustrations. Think romantic fairytale creatures and elvish and mysterious women. She’s featured in Yen Magazine this month, one of Australia’s best independent women’s publications. How I miss the days as their intern back in Leichhardt.
Bitches are my favourite, and XOJane.com loves them too. Check out this tribute to the psychadelic fashion from Meredith Brook’s video clip. For those who might not recall dancing around in their living room celebrating the deliciously chaotic life of being a woman (I was so profound at 8), Meredith Brook’s rock ‘n’ roll number captures perfectly 1990s grrrrl culture and questionable (yet glorious) fashion choices.
The death of Amy Winehouse has seen an outpouring of obituaries from every single media outlet, but this one from the Guardian is one of my favourites. In a similar vain to an article I wrote for Tharunka last year, Laura Barton’s writes of a ferocious woman not afraid to dispel the Katy Perry illusion. Wonderfully messy, deeply depressive and tortured by the wretchedness that an addiction to drugs will bring, Amy Winehouse’s story of a good girl gone bad is the 21st century pop culture synecdoche for women winding down in their own decay.
Pop music had often cast women as sweet, bright creatures, but Winehouse’s lyrics revealed something mulchier, messier. Here was a woman who refused to conform – not in the eccentric mad woman in the attic mould of Kate Bush or Björk, but a woman who chose to live a little wild, follow her heart and sing of the simple stew of being female. Her songs were filled with broad talk, cussing, drink and drugs and dicks, songs that could hinge on one magnificent, unladylike question: “What kind of fuckery is this?”
In the wake of Amy Winehouse’s death, Rachel Hills writes of the difficult woman and the pop culture good girl stereotype.
This post is about VAGINA, and is courtesy of the lovely, smart and red hot Rachel Rabbit White. I was going to type lady-bits, but why euphamise such an amazing part of the human body when saying VAGINA is so pleasing? Consider this a clarion call for labia love. Nay to derogatory adjectives such as “deli meats” or “axe wound”. You possess a delicate flower, always nurture and show it the respect it deserves.
Beyonce on why we need a new word for feminism. Do you think the term feminism is exclusive? Do you refer to yourself as a feminist? Why? Why not? Let me hear your thoughts!
Happy Sunday amazing humans. X
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