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….And thus concludes the end of my second week back at uni. Was I ready for this jelly? No, no I was not. Regardless, you’re more than likely to find me bouncing out of bed ready to LEARN IMPORTANT STUFF rather than clutching at my pillow, praying for JUST 5 MORE MINUTES PLZ. I love learning, and I’m so happy to be back at uni. It’s the ultimate indulgence to feed my mind, to bounce ideas off of other inspiring, positive and creative people.

Things might be a little more quiet now that I’m back at big school and writing essays and trying to remember how to use the APA referencing system (which I totally don’t remember existed, by the way). I wish I had more time to jump up and down on my computer keyboard excitedly and churn out more posts like the eager Gen Y smarty-pants I am, but my course requires a lot of attention and little time for…well, life. Having said that,I’m really determined to make time for the projects that matter to me these days. More writing! More photography! More reading! Like a grocery list chock block of awesome food for the soul! Time is trickier than Where’s Wally. You can’t find it, you have to make it, and you’re never too busy for the things you love. Never.


This week I definitely noticed a trend in articles on self-loathing and self-loving in the physical sense. Because Girls Are Made From Pepsi is all about lady love, coming to terms with and accepting our diverse physicality is a large part of appreciating and celebrating your foxy self. Females of all ages – whether young girls or middle aged women – have all gone through some sort of body image crisis. Some deal with their inner critics more effectively than others, whilst some of still unconsciously grab at imaginary love-handles when trying on new jeans. I personally don’t feel ready to write a body image post of my own, so below are some of the best I’ve read this week (or ever!).

How gay-friendly is Facebook? With the Google+ machine ploughing through the digital stratosphere aiming to catch as many band-wagon enthusiasts as possible (oh yeah, I saw it riding past and climbed on!), Lesbilicious takes a look at how the world’s most popular (and infamous!) social networking site helped (or hindered) queer visability. Can we expect the same from Google+? Do social networks force people out of the closet when they ask you disclose information? Or is it still possible to keep some of our life private? It did not escape me that Google+ does not ask for your sexual orientation…

By the way – it’s awfully lonely on Google+! If anyone wants an invite, holla at me! I’m willing to spread the love around!

Liz at Autostraddle does a fashioncap of the latest Pretty Little Liars, turns the majority of the cast/extras into homos, and consequently makes my week whilst doing so.

THIS IS NEW INFORMATION. Not all women like pink. If you are one of those women, I’m sorry for my blog’s colour scheme and it’s affect on your retinas. Not really, because I love pink! But don’t worry, I still like you. This study, published in the Harvard Business Review (and handily dissected for the sake of my poor attention span by Gawker), suggests that women don’t like pink because it reminds them of other women.

Despite the fact that a full 100% of lesbians are women, it appears that women do not actually love themselves? Because it’s not the color of pink that women hate, according to the study, so much as the fact that pink is “a gender cue” that triggers a “defensive response” among women. This sort of self-loathing behavior is really sad to see among a gender that has produced lots of really quality gymnasts.

The study was conducted in relation to breast cancer donations. Although it seems fairly obvious that sometimes, you know, women prefer blue, some parts of the study actually sounded like they might not be completed baseless.

We put breast cancer banner ads on a website we showed the subjects but never mentioned them. When the site was geared to women [with the colour pink], 33% of women recalled the ads. When it was gender-neutral, 65% remembered. It’s been three years, and we have duplicated the same basic finding 10 times. It keeps happening.

Check out this video for Vanessa Bruno’s SS 12 collection. It features a Lou Doillon and Jessica Joffe as beautifully dressed forest sprites of some sort. (I am still recovering from Stevie Dance’s departure. I feel the need to talk about this. Anyone?)

140 characters can say a lot about your gender. According to a sociolinguistic study, women use a lot more emoticons and exclamation points ( !! =] ). I think I may have been an unwitting subject for this study…

Girl With a Satchel (Erica Bartle, or GWAS as she is known) is talking about body image. It’s a regular topic on GWAS, but I always love her posts on body image because they’re not just empty, superficial rhetoric about how important it is for us to love ourselves. Erica’s past experiences inform her views on body image and the media, so it’s not like she comes across all gung-ho about fighting the evil advertising standards which allow women to look like pore-less faces of sparkling beauty. She just recognises that it really, really sucks to open up a magazine and not feel like you resemble the yummy young things that dominate the pages.

What can be done by publishers in light of the fact that the Voluntary Code of Conduct has not been widely accepted? Go easy on the Photoshop, embrace what’s real, and complement fashion and beauty with a greater proportion of content that gives credit to women and girls’ other attributes. Devote sections to cultivating their minds, creativity, social conscience, resilience and knowledge of the world, as well as playing on their capacity to empathise, laugh, have fun and contribute something positive.

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Rachel Hills shares her personal experience of BDD (body dysmorphic disorder).

When you’re actually living through something, it feels like some dark, impossible shame you could never speak openly to anyone about. Then there’s the stage of recovery where the whole event seems far enough in the past that the stigma begins to evaporate and you can speak about it freely. And eventually, you get to the point where it seems so long ago that it no longer feels relevant, almost as if it happened to another person.

I think I feel a bit like Rachel in a way when she says she finds it hard to open up, and not because she’s ashamed or doesn’t want to relive past events she’d rather keep locked up in her 16-year-old diary, but because it’s had to relate to who we were in the past. How do you speak for someone who exists outside of your here and now? Just as it’s difficult to comprehend and interpret another person’s state of mind, so too is it problematic to try and justify the actions of your former self. I, like many other girls, feel so far removed from who we once were, and that’s why many things are left unsaid.

Conversely, Anna Sussman writes of the eating disorder cliche – ‘Me Too’ Syndrome. I would really love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this one! Do you think there’s an E.D cliche? Or are you more partial to an open book policy? Over sharing? Or over people not caring?

Your vagina is a beautiful flower and anyone who gets your naked as hit the jackpot. Nay to vulva antagonism!

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Apple, Pear, or Eggplant? I never understood why people compare their bodies with the shapes of fruit. I get the need to associate the female form with a deliciously sweet snack, but I’ve never felt these so called guides to female body shapes ever achieve anything.

Not satisfied? You might have more luck with something like Trinny & Susannah’s body shape guide, which has 12 possible forms—but, if you’re like me, you’ll still be left untyped. This isn’t because of your crazy, freakish body type that is unfit to be clothed. It’s because your body is probably a combination of run-of-the-mill (I mean that with love!) without a particular feature that calls for attention, and certain features that you may want to highlight or conceal but that don’t land you in one of the classic types.

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This week’s round-up of productive procrastination! Random tidbits, tasty morsels for the bored, food for the soul and social commentary.

Skechers is sexist and hates cupcakes – Uh, wow. This advertisement is all kinds of creepy. Don’t run from cupcakes, girls!. But maybe run away from a Candy BBQ.

Sistah be doin’ it for sistahood! Kristin Wiig has a new movie coming out, and it’s your duty as a 21st Century grrrl to go see it!

Speaking of female comedians, growing up, I was never a fan of the Roseanne show. Most of the jokes flew over my head and my father was king of the remote control anyways and the show wasn’t to his liking. Now I’m 23 (almost!), I possess the cynicism that one can only acquire with age, and now I kind of appreciate the wise-ass parents and the wise-ass kids. Roseanne wears flannel, she over-eats, makes fun of her children behind their backs and has this absurd love/hate relationship with her mother and sister. Roseanne really reveals how imperfect modern families are – and it’s hilarious! Love her or hate her, Roseanne Barr changed the comedy industry for women. But she had to play hard ball to do it.

It didn’t take long for me to get a taste of the staggering sexism and class bigotry that would make the first season of Roseanne god-awful. It was at the premiere party when I learned that my stories and ideas—and the ideas of my sister and my first husband, Bill—had been stolen. The pilot was screened, and I saw the opening credits for the first time, which included this: CREATED BY MATT WILLIAMS. I was devastated and felt so betrayed that I stood up and left the party. Not one person noticed.

Facebook in real life - Bright star Natalia (hola, girl!) over at Mamma Mia bought my attention to the Hungry Beast’s video. It’s about how Facebook’s codes of social etiquette fail to apply to real life situations. It’s funny, and I get the point they’re making. Why on earth are we broadcasting to the world that we’re drinking a slurpy? Or that we’re gay, or straight, or our favourite movie is fightclub, or our email server of choice? But the interwebs is not real life. And that’s what makes it so fun, and at times a little scary.

Which brings me to this post by Rachel Hills about the ‘”Ga-Ga-esque pyrotechnics” of the internet.

Sometimes the grubbiness runs deeper. A sense that what some people are saying, at least, is all bullshit; jostling; self-aggrandising. A product of a hope on their part that if you say something often enough, it will become true.

Part of the problem is what Mills touches upon in his post: the fact that social media is a public space. A more public space than the places we used to think of as public spaces, even. When it comes to social media, almost everything happens “on stage”. Even something like Facebook, which drew its initial appeal from the promise that it was a walled online garden where we could freely be ourselves, has long since become anything but that.

More privacy drama surrounding Facebook. The Sydney Morning Herald describes it as “‘men’s only” Facebook group” which “features hundreds of images of women in bikinis and lingerie, obtained from the personal Facebook photo albums of the members’ female friends”. One of the girls’ whose photos were uploaded without her consent said – “I’m a little bit angry, to be honest. If it was one of my friends who has copied a photo of me to put on a public website and not let me know then I’d feel extremely betrayed.” Unfortunately, there aren’t any laws at the moment outlawing the sharing of images from social media websites. I’m speculating that the owners of the Brocial Network will probably retaliate with a backlash against these women, who probably shouldn’t post these images because they’re all just asking for attention and should be flattered by their manliness and overwhelmingly mature response to the female form, right? I have photos on my facebook of myself in a bikini. I don’t post them for attention, or so all the boyz will lyk me and think I’m hawt. I think the Brocial Network is just another form of ‘slut-shaming’, and a means to ingrain this idea that female bodies are public property.

In defense of hipsters – I like bikes. Old bikes. I hate Ikea. I enjoy wearing ugly jumpers and some of the so called music I like is more akin to an orgy of broken computers. Does this make me a hipster? Maybe. But I also like Usher! And television! And sometimes I get my coffee from Gloria Jeans! Hipster-dom is starting to define my generation. That is, my generation is defining themselves with stuff from past generations. A disdain for capitalism and mass-manufacturing. Vintage furniture. Mustaches. Granny’s cardigans. Obscure music. Obscure type-faces. Obscure anything, really. But what exactly is so wrong with widening your tastes and exploring other than what is right in front of you?

The aesthetic is about being appreciative of things that have been made with care and consideration, like beautiful bikes and hand-crafted fonts. Not to take the piss or because they can’t think of anything new themselves, but because they appreciate things that were done well…in contrast to the mass-produced gunk they grew up around. Hipster culture cherry-picks the best of the new and the old.

The Emotional Guidance System – Sometimes, I feel like my days are ruled by polar opposite emotions. I feel either jubilant, or severely bed-ridden with pessimism and a severe case of Angry Princess Bitchface. I’m walking on sunshine or having an inner monologue about hating everyone and everything, including myself. Jetta’s post over at The Radical Uprise really helped me visual my emotions on the scale. She talks about Jerry and Esther Hick’s Emotional Guidance System, which kind of entails you to see your emotions as a kind of ladder. You gotta work up that thing if you wanna get to the top, sugar. I usually describe my moods as shit, less shit, pretty good and super-fucking great thank you sir, but this way’s a lot better.

Bin it, baby – As a reformed hoarder and an obsessive chucker-outerer (yes I made that word up. Copyright Camilla Peffer 2011 etc), I never shy away from preaching the benefits of simplistic living. When I moved to Perth a month ago, I was living out of a suitcase for three weeks. It’s surprising how much you can get by without. I really did have an urge to watch 500 Days of Summer so not having my DVD collection kind of sucked, but the quality of my life wasn’t exactly lacking or anything without it. When all my stuff arrived (one week late I might add!), I found myself listing a whole heap of unwanted clothes on eBay. Not sure why I ever had that puffy-sleeved gold Michael Jackson jacket.

How the Bachelor in Bugger All can help you get ahead – Whilst applying to universities this week (I got into Murdoch! Yay! But I really have my fingers crossed for Curtin!), I needed a reminder of why I’m putting myself through three years of caffeine induced brainstorming, midnight essays and often times cold, distant institutionalised learning. Does my distinction average really count for anything? Could I be doing something more? Sarah Von over at Yes and Yes says it’s all about the extra that provide the extra icing on your resume cake.

More than your degree, your work experience, personality, connections and work ethic will help you find a job. If you’ve got a few good internships, knowledge of the appropriate software, a friendly demeanor and a buddy in the company, it probably won’t matter if your degree is in underwater basket weaving – you’ll be in.

Who hasn’t worked a crummy job before? Who isn’t working a crummy job right now? The next time I take on a bottom rung position and find myself ordered to decorate bathrooms again, I’m going to remind myself of Melissa Febos’ story. We all start out somewhere as a worm beneath the dirt, so we may as well create some crazy anecdotes to impress aquaintances!

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She’s the Aussie version of Andy Sachs, but probably a whole lot sassier, smarter and savvy. With a CV to put any aspiring mag-hag to shame, Rachel Hills has worked for every major Australian publication and has currently gone AWOL conquering ole’ Blitey. Earlier in the year I had a chat to the Australian journalist, blogger, Phd student and self-confessed inappropriate woman about the highs and lows of freelancing, jumping across the pond and her soon to be released book.

Hey Rachel! So why the move to to London?

My boyfriend is living over there. It took us until maybe about April to figure out that he had moved. Originally he was supposed to only go for a few weeks, but his work kept him there. So when we figured it out we pulled the plans into action and I’m heading over there very shortly.

You’re currently doing a Phd at UNSW at the moment aren’t you?

I’m not finishing any time soon because they take forever to do! But I’ll be finishing it up when I get over there. Not immediately, but perhaps over the next two years.

Tell me about your dissertation!

I’m researching young people, late teens and 20-somethings, and maybe a bit older, and sex and identity. [I’m] Basically looking at this idea that our generation are always having sex. It’s called hypersexualisation of college students. The media is hyping up what people are doing romantically. So I came to the conclusion, that seems to be supported by my research so far which is fortunate, that what I was hearing about people my age and sex wasn’t really being reflected by the reality of people’s experiences. Status is somehow found in how much sex you’re getting. I think there’s a mythology about the perfect sex lives that everybody has.

When did you decide you wanted to be a journalist?

Probably. I always wrote as a child, and when I was little I would make zines. When I was in year 5 I got my class to make a newspaper which was very, very crappy. My poor mum had to typeset for me. I don’t know if I’d do that for my children. And when I was a teenager in high school I set up a website, and realised I was really passionate about writing and not really anything else. But I didn’t really think seriously about pursuing journalism until about year 12. Although what I wanted to do then was probably a little bit different to what I want to do now.

What did you want to do then?

I was really into music, and I was a musician myself. So back then, I was really interested in entertainment journalism. It’s weird how everything all comes together though. I used to want to be the editor of Cosmopolitan. It’s a goal I’ve since discarded, but it’s kind of strange, because now I write for Cleo and I’m going to be in Cosmopolitan next week. I recall when I was 16 also chatting to a friend’s mother and saying it was my dream to rant about popular culture. And whilst my intellect has improved, it still is my dream to write about things I’m interested in.

When I say it was my goal as 19 to be editor of Cosmopolitan, I was writing for student publications. I wouldn’t say I had a goal, and then I discarded it, then I came back to it, it’d be more that it evolved over time. When I was 20 I started editing the student publication, and I was fascinated by the machinations in student politics, and thus got really into covering that on campus. It was my goal to cover all the scandals amongst student politicians, and through that I gained an interest in political reporting.

I edited the politics section of Vibewire for a couple of years, then I got a job at New Matilda. I was also very interested in feminism, which is what ironically drew me to women’s magazines, because they’re a ground where you can discuss women’s issues. A few years after I left uni, I applied to be deputy editor of Girlfriend magazine.  Which is quite funny, because I’d never worked for a big magazine, but miraculously I got an interview. I think part of the reason I got an interview was because in my cover letter I was saying teenage girls were a lot wittier and more sassy and ironic in their consumption of media. They enjoy laughing at stuff. So when I pitched myself as a potential staff member – and by the way, I didn’t get the job – my basic pitch was ‘let’s work at helping Girlfriend better cater teenage girls’. The editor really liked my cover letter – but I bombed in the interview. It was my worst interview ever! But the editor loved my story pitches, so that’s how I started writing for them. Then I started writing for Cleo later because the same editor of the Girlfriend editorial team now works for Cleo.

So you did a lot of extracurricular activities during uni?

My career is very muddled. I did do a lot of extracurricular activities at university. In my undergraduate years I was hugely involved in everything on campus. I was involved in student politics; I was editor of the student publication; I was vice president of the Media Society for two years; I was involved in the activist left; I did lots and lots and lots of things. That’s how I got involved in Vibewire, and that’s what got me pitching freelance ideas to people. I was freelancing before I graduated, and I worked for a non-profit organisation for a year, Interchange New South Wales. I was doing their communications work and doing Vibewire on the side, and working with lots of talented young people there, who may have only been 19, 20, 21, but were getting published in a really major publication. It made me realise I could do paid work. I think it’s really important to tell young journalist that they don’t have to work for free. If you’re writing for small, independent publications, it might be necessary, but if you’re writing for newspapers or magazines or their websites, you certainly can get paid.

How do you pitch a story?

It can be quite a tricky thing to do. When I first started doing it, the first big publication I wrote for was the SMH. It was my goal at the beginning of 2005 to get published there. So I thought ‘The way I’m going to make his happen is by submitting them an article every week until they take my stories’. And the idea wasn’t so much to bug them, but when you’re a newbie, people don’t know you, so they don’t trust you. I guess being an editor [and] seeing someone’s name once a week would have been a bit much. Maybe every two weeks would have been a bit better! But you’re going to become a familiar commodity for them and they’re going to be more likely to want to take your work.

Fortunately for me, they took the second story I sent them so I didn’t have to keep sending them stuff! The early nerd gets her stuff published in the herald. So just be someone that’s in front of people, and do good work. Don’t just send an email and say “Hi Editor! I want to write this!” Submit the entire story. If you can write, and you can argue, and you can be entertaining, they can see that. They have all of that evidence in front of them. Magazines are a lot harder to break into than newspapers. I’ve spoken to my editors at mags, and they’ve run a lot of workshops on pitching and teaching people how to pitch and freelance. I think pitching is hard because it’s an art. I wasn’t very good at it at the start, although I somehow managed to get work published using pitches that were quite poorly constructed.

What was your worst mistake?

Getting a pitch accepted and then not writing the article! Sometimes when you pitch a really complicated article, it can become quite overwhelming when you put it together. So, it was silly, but I don’t think it ruined my career or anything. I think a huge mistake other new writers make is not knowing the publication you’re writing for. I think people have preconceived notions about what magazines or newspapers will publish, but you’ve got to read them very carefully. The art of pitching isn’t just coming up with a great story idea, but about figuring out a certain publication would approach it, like what kind of language would they use, and then present that in your pitch. It’s really hard to learn when you’re starting out.

What do you love most about freelancing?

Coming up with ideas.

What’s the worst?

Waiting for people to pay you. For people starting out, it difficult to even get paid at all. One of the problems in the proliferation of large media companies who aren’t paying writers for their work. I’ve been paid for writing for 5 years now but I still get approached to write for free. But if you’re younger, and the exposure is worth it, go for it.

Who’s your idol?

Simone de Beauvoir. I read a book about her the other day, and the life that she led was just really admirable. I liked the freedom that she had. She was an awful person in some respects, but I admired her commitment to their friends. They did exciting things, [and] they made good work.

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